Are you ashamed of your sexual wants, thoughts and desires?
I have noticed that if we feel ashamed of our sexual side then we want to box it up and place it high up on a shelf...out of sight, out of mind. We want to make sure that this sexual energy is kept under control. When we feel ashamed we feel emotions such as depression, shame, guilt, anger and many others. If we feel we are not safe expressing and/or owning our sexual energy then of course we would just suppress it. The more we push our sexual thoughts, desires and wants down the more they completely consume us. They consume us in a secretive way. In ways such as getting mad the kids for little things, attacking our spouse with hurtful words or a mindless conversation, feeling worthless, eating ourselves into a world of numbness and filling the void. Our sexual energy is our creative energy. We are sexual beings. Having sexual wants, thought and desires is 100% normal and natural. We may not act out every thought, want or desire but it is completely acceptable to allow yourself to feel and connect with your sexual self.
Here are 3 ways that can assist you in opening up to your sexual thoughts, wants and desires.
Spend 5 minutes each day thinking about your sexual side
We dedicate time to so many things. Taking the kids to school, doing the laundry, washing the dishes, reading a book, making dinner and so many other things. I would love for you to consider the possibility of spending time getting in touch with your sexual wants, thoughts, and desire. Take 5 minutes and allow yourself to tap into your sexual energy. What we focus on expands. We want to be focusing on being sexually fulfilled and showing up in a space of love, peace and sensuality. Take time and meditate and add an extra 5 minutes to tap into your sexual wants, thoughts and desires.
Work your core as well as kegels
We work out for so many different reasons. Did you know that exercise creates better sex. The core is the place where our sexual energy resides( this energy also resides in the heart but we open up our heart through love and trust). When we are doing physical workouts commit to a different workout routine 2 times a week. Add some hip thrust and some deep core work. Do 50 kegels a day. The vaginal muscles are just that muscles. They deserve a great workout as well. The rewards are two fold here as you will experience more sexual pleasure but you also increase your chances of not having to wear depends when you get older! We must dedicate time to strengthen our sexual muscles.
Do something exciting
There is nothing else that will shut down your sexual wants, thought and desires as boredom will. Create something sexy. Create something spontaneous. Create something sensual. I am not saying that this will be the most comfortable thing to do. Anytime we do something out of the ordinary we can feel nervous, excited and a little uncomfortable. When we do something out of the ordinary in the bedroom we create excitement. Think of anything in your life. When you are bored you feel bland and dull. Now think of something exciting in your life. Even if it was putting yourself out there I know it made you feel alive. The bedroom is a place where getting uncomfortable and actually become the best decision you made. I remember the 1st time I did a pretty naughty strip tease for my husband. I was a nervous wreak. I actually drank some alcohol to calm my nerves but all this did was make my dancing a little more tipsy. Still I created excitement and something new in our marriage and still to this day my husband and I can remember that amazing strip tease. Do something new and do something fun. I promise you will be happy did.
Have you ever felt intense anger during sex?
Have you ever felt tears of sadness during sex?
Have you ever felt like giggling during sex?
Have you ever felt numb during sex?
Have you ever felt extreme love or extreme hate during sex?
I wanted to ask you these questions as I have experienced all of these emotions during or after sex. In our culture we are taught that sex should only be filled with pleasure and maybe a bit of pain if you and your partner are into that. We are taught that to feel emotions other then pleasure means that something is wrong with us sexually. We hear messages that create shame and guilt inside of us if we feel any of the above emotions I have mentioned. I wanted to share my emotional history with sex in the hopes that it will assist you in feeling more connected to your sexual soul.
I always have enjoyed being sexual. I haven't always enjoyed sex but I have always enjoyed being sexual. When I was younger I know the power of my feminine body. I knew that if I wore tight shirts and booty shorts I could get a lot of attention. This longing for men's attention came because of my first connection with a man. My biological father abandon me at a very young age and would also deny that I was even his. Even thou this happened at such a young age it completely altered how I interacted with men. I longed for men to want me, to love me, to need me and to approve of me. I knew that my sexual energy would be the easiest way to get that approval. I enjoyed sexing myself up to go out on the town. This method never failed I always found someone to fill this aching emptiness. I would love the laughter and the connection. I would reach out in the hopes that they could make me feel whole again. The night would go on and we would dance, laugh, have a drink and then make out. (When I was younger I was afraid of sex itself so that kept me a bit safer. I would have slept with many men searching for this approval if I didn't have this underlying fear). My biological father was a raging alcoholic and he was extremely abusive. I am sure this is where my fear of sex came from. He would force himself on my mom in a brutal way so this made me fearful of sex. Anyway. I spent many a nights trying to find this approval, this love that I thought only a man could give me.
When I was 17 I fell in love. His name was Eddie and he made me feel complete. He made me feel special. He made me feel wanted. He made me feel loved. How I attracted him into my life would only make sense, his mother was an alcoholic. He could relate to my pain and we used each other to fill the silence of a disconnected parent. He assisted me in covering up my issue of abandonment and rejection and I assisted him in covering up his issue of lonliness and despair. So about a month went by and we finally had sex. I had an orgasm in about 1 minute. I didn't know what an orgasm with a man felt like. I had masturbated for years but had no idea I was giving myself orgasms. So when he gave me an orgasm something happened and I felt shame, guilt and shock. For the next 10 years I never experienced an orgasm through penetration alone. I went years with attaching so much to my ability to not have an orgasm with penetration alone. I had no one to talk to I just had my own thoughts that created a feeling of darkness and hatred.
So I am now married and have been for 15 years. I have been working on releasing many emotions that I have around sex. Here is the first experience I had that I know that sex could and is so healing. One night Jeff and I wanted to try something new in the bedroom. I asked him at dinner if he would kind of be a bit forceful with me and really use some aggressive energy. The night went on and I had forgot about our dinner conversation. We were laying in bed and we started wrestling and I was laughing and giggling. He then reached over, slapped me pretty hard and threw me on my back. He was doing what I had asked him but it didn't go down like I expected. When he slapped me I started to sob. This was a cry so deep, so intense, so painful. I cried and cried for about 30 minutes. This experience assisted me in realizing that sex is extremely healing. Some of this pain was my own for going so many years searching for approval but some of this energy was from my mother. Generational energy that was trapped inside me. I am thankful for that experience. I am also thankful for the ability for me to realize that feeling, expressing and healing my emotions during or after sex is completely normal. I still have moments when I feel like crying after sex and so I do. It has nothing to do with the sex itself. It has to do with the emotions that sex brings up and if we just suppress these then sex will never be enjoyable.
It is absolutely acceptable to feel joy, anger, sadness, laughter and any other emotion that comes up while we are being sexual. Sex is the most amazing thing and when we are having a sexual relationship with our spouse, someone who hopefully we feel safe with, we are going to have these emotional experiences. Release your need to be perfect in the bedroom. Its okay to be a hot mess. Laugh, cry, kick, scream and love yourself through the process of sexual emotional healing.
You are absolutely amazing and you deserve to feel comfortable expressing your sexual emotions. Don't shut down. Don't run. Show up. Embrace who you are and allow yourself to be transparent and loved.
This morning after I worked out and had my morning ice coffee I opened my email and found this little gem inside awaiting for me to open it.
" several of us girlfriends were reading your self love posts, you fall short every time admission on masturbating, and sidestep it a bit. do you or don't you condone or condemn it. We girlfriends speak often of it with each other, around each other, who does or doesn't, who does or doesn't with or without or in front of or in private with boyfriends or husbands even. I think your Utah roots maybe make you too conservative to actually say or admit, but it may free you more. may help your orgasmic journeys!"
The above statement was from someone who reads my blog. What she states is absolutely true. I closed my eyes for a moment and thought why did I received this message? Here is my answer.
I believe that self love is so important when it comes to the bedroom. I believe that loving our whole body is extremely valuable when it comes to receiving pleasure. When I write about the power of caressing and cherishing ourselves it doesn't often include masturbation as a topic as I don't want my message to get bull dozed by the word masturbation. Being able to enjoy caressing your neck , breast, stomach, thighs and hips can really open up the sexual center of our being. Soft touches and loving glances are amazing when it comes to self love. Being able to touch our own bodies is a must when it comes to receiving sexual pleasure. As for masturbation....
I am no longer going to side step this topic. Wow... I am feeling some resistance when it comes to writing about this, noticing it and releasing it, I am going to just push through and be transparent.
First off let me tell you that I love to masturbate. I enjoy touching my own body and satisfying myself in the most feminine of ways. I know exactly what I like and how to build my sexual energy so it is flowing in the most orgasmic way. I use masturbation as a healing tool. I repeat statements such as " I love you Cameo, You are cherished and you are loved, You are safe to show up in the world". Sometimes I masturbate because I am feeling all this built up energy and I feel like an orgasm will create an internal environment of peace. Of course anytime I watch porn alone I masturbate, although I have released porn for the last 6 months or so. I notice I use porn to tap into the angry emotions I have when it comes to my sexual self. I like porn that is rough and maybe even a bit brutal so I have decide to release it from my life for now. I also can masturbate with nothing on my mind whatsoever. I love to tap into my sexual energy and show myself some amazing self love.
I started masturbating at a very young age. I masturbated every time I took a bath when I was a little girl. I would scoot my bottom down and put my legs up and whola, the magic of water. H2O brought all my sense to life. I always felt so much shame and so much guilt. Masturbation wasn't something I felt comfortable with, I just knew it felt amazing. I was a bathtub masturbater. I still enjoy a little shower fun every now and then but I really enjoy taking time and really loving myself. I don't masturbate in front of my husband as I would rather he please me with his masculine essence. Sometimes I do a little light teasing but that is all, just enough to drive him wild. Masturbation is a personal choice. If it is assisting you in feeling more connected, more grounded and allowing your sexual energy to be more free then I would absolutely suggest you masturbate . Masturbate just enough to keep this part of you turned on but don't masturbate so much that you lose your interest in your husbands magic wand.
If you masturbate and you feel tremendous shame and guilt then you want to take some time and self reflect. Shame and guilt are two of the lowest vibrations. We want our vulva's and vaginas to be vibrating at the highest frequency but we must move up the scale. So allow yourself some room. Allow yourself some space to discover what you like and who you are when it comes to your sexual soul. We carry tremendous pain in our vagina's and we must decide to work through this intense pain so we can get to our paradise. Masturbation may be that key and it may not but you get to decide for yourself.
No matter what you decide know that you deserve to love your body and to love your life. You deserve to enjoy your feminine energy as well as your masculine energy. You deserve to have a connection to the orgasmic woman or man that you are. No shame, no guilt, no right, no wrong, just self discovery at its finest!
When we think about sex we may have many emotions and beliefs pop up. Take a moment and think about some of the beliefs and emotions that you have personally about sex. Some of these emotions and beliefs are positive but I bet about 90% of the beliefs and emotions that come up have some heavy negative energy. This energy keeps us stuck in a place of not fully embracing the love we want to have for sex. No one ever wants to have emotions or beliefs of negativity when it comes to our erotic nature. We all long for peace, passion and pleasure.
I have noticed the beliefs and emotions that we personally have around who we are as a human being are showing up in our sexuality. So when we feel depressed, anxious, overwhelmed, abandoned, worthless, fearful and unworthy we feel this exact same emotion in the bedroom. These emotions of who you are and are not DESERVE to be released and shifted into positive, beautiful ,amazing beliefs. Every morning when you wake up speak words of passion, pleasure and peace to yourself. Take time to acknowledge who you are and see all the divine beauty you bring into this world. Caress yourself with a soft, gentle touch and feel the uplifting vibration of your sexual energy awaken within you. Slowly caress your luscious fingers and your delicate hand. Feel what it feels like to have a gentle touch and enjoy it. If you can't even enjoy your own personal touch there is NO WAY in hell you are going to enjoy your spouse touching you. Caress your forehead, your cheek bone and softly go over your beautiful lips. Loving the touch. Loving the movement. Loving the expression of enjoying your physical body. Caress the curvature of your neck and the upper part of your bodacious breasts. Allow yourself to linger there for a moment and think sexy thoughts. Slowly move down your breast to your nipples, no need to pinch, pull or squeeze just allow your hand to touch yourself in a very light fluid way. The breast are so beautiful. So amazing. So fucking sexy. Go from there and slowly run your hands up and down your mid sextion. Your belly holds a lot of sexual energy. This energy can be amazing and uplifting or this energy can be holding you back from experiencing all the pleasure you deserve. Allow yourself to let this energy move into you or out of you. Take some time caressing your belly and loving your body for all she is. Now it is time to move to the hips. Wow...women have amazing hips. So beautiful. So powerful. So Pleasureful. Take a moment and slowly caress your hips, thighs, buttock and vagina. Soft and gentle just a very light touch. Speak words of love. Speak words of passion. Speak words of pleasure. Speak words of awakening.( you can do all this over your clothes or completely naked, its up to you)
Awaken and love yourself and this will transfer over to the bedroom. Take time every morning to love yourself and get comfortable with your own touch. I promise the more you caress and love yourself the easier it will be to allow your lover to touch and caress you. Soon you will love your own touch as well as longing and loving your lovers touch.
Okay ladies, lets get real honest here. When it comes to our sexuality there is no right and wrong, good or bad, black or white, wholesome or trampy. Even if we were taught to wait until we get married to explore our sexuality then we can all scream with excitement because now we are married.
For years I have been on this road to sexual self discovery. I am still traveling down the road but I feel like I have a good solid map and know exactly where my destination is.
SEX IS NOT BLACK OR WHITE
When it comes to Mrs. Vagina she can be all about right or wrong and good or bad. She can quickly shift through and sort through many emotions and many actions and then determine if this is a good and acceptable emotion or if this is an unacceptable emotion and she should feel bad for even having the thought.
When I lived by this rule in my marriage I was slowly dying inside. I wanted to get so fucking wild in bed but my good girl side would say " that is unacceptable".I wanted to explore my sexuality with my husband but my good girl would say "just do your wifely duty and it will be fine". I wanted to feel orgasmic in bed, not just a little orgasmic I wanted to experience what it felt like to completely surrender. To be so engulfed in the sexual expression of mine and my husbands love for each other that I lost myself totally in this beautiful, amazing mind blowing sex but my good girl side would say "just be happy with having an orgasm". I wanted to suck my husbands dick in the way that he only dreamed of but my good girl side would say " just go up and down in a steady motion and he will enjoy it".
So my good girl and I came head to head. I listened to her feelings and understood how she felt and she listened to my feelings of wanting to explore more and express my true sexual nature. We fought back and forth for years and finally we have came to an agreement. WE BOTH WIN!
I can have amazing sensual, soft , sexy sex and be perfectly happy in this space. I can have a mind blowing fuck session where my husband is able to express his sexual dominance and I can be perfectly happy in this space. I can have a 5 minute quickie and feel happy in that space or my husband and I can express our passion towards one another for hours and I am happy in that space. I can express my sexual creativeness by sending a naughty text or a wild picture and I am happy in that space or I can send a text of sadness and a picture of vulnerability and be happy in this space.
Sex is an amazing expression of everything we are. There should be no limit to what you want to experience and how you want to experience it...as long as you and your husband agree then anything goes.
Stop putting so many damn labels on who you are and who you are not in the bedroom. Start taking steps to express your wants and desires. Start loving your hot and wild thoughts and share those with your husband.
You deserve to embrace your sexual self. Explore...Experiment...Enlighten your sexual self!
Our vagina is absolutely amazing. She has a whole bag of tricks. She can be tight, hot and on fire or she can be relaxed, tired and ready for bed . She can be completely dry like the Sahara Desert or she can be as wet as the blue pacific ocean! She can be as quiet as a mouse or loud and up front. Our vagina has many different personalities and we deserve to love and embrace every damn one of them. Our vagina deserves to be respected and admired. She deserves self love and self care. She deserve to be cherished and caressed! Our vagina deserve the pleasure she so longs for. So what is this pleasure?
It can be anything she is in the mood for. Our vagina will receive pleasure from anything we choose as long as it is coming from a relaxed and loving place. Our vagina will receive the most amazing, out of this world pleasure if she can stay in a relaxed state. When we allow our vagina to become so tense and full of tight energy then we will receive short, intense, tight orgasms. When we allow our vagina to be open, flowing, allowing and full of releasing energy then this is exactly the type of orgasm she will receive. Long, head to toe, mind relaxing orgasms. A whole body orgasm that last for what seems like hours. When we can relax the vagina then we can relax our whole body and mind.
Our vagina is made for pleasure....not just the clitoris although this is made for pure pleasure, our vagina is made for pleasure as well. If we are so tense and constricted when our husband tries to enter us then the sex will feel very tense and constricted. If we are relaxed and peaceful then when our husband tries to enter us we will receive burst of beautiful orgasmic energy and the more relaxed we can be the better these orgasmic energies are.
Next time you have sex, fuck or make love relax your vagina, relax your mind and relax your body. I promise you will feel completely transformed as a sexual being. You will feel connected, you will feel sensational and you will feel like you have finally reached the land of sexual satisfaction.
Relax and love your vagina ...she deserves it!
Do you ever feel conflicted when it comes to who you are in your daily life and who you so badly want to be in the bedroom? As women of the 21st Century we are pulled in so many different directions. Most are Mothers, employees, bakers, organizers, cleaners, helpers, and so much more. Most of what women do on a daily basis can and will suck the sexy right from us if we allow it to. We as women deserve to choose sexiness. We deserve to feel empowered in the bedroom. We deserve to feel like the goddesses we are. I have noticed since becoming a mother that my sexy feeling can shut down pretty quickly if I allow it to. When I am feeling motherly I always felt like sexiness could not be part of the emotional state of mommyhood. When I was reading to my kids, changing their diapers, baking cookies with them or sitting down and having a conversations with them I would shut down my sexy. When we shut down our sexy it can be very challenging to turn her back on.
So when we are reading to the children we can still be in a sexy space. Sexiness is a state of mind. When we are baking with our kids we can still be in a sexy state of mind. When we are changing diapers we can still be in a sexy state of mind all though this one might be a bit more challenging but still possible. If we are not using the most powerful tool we have...our minds to keep our sexiness activated then it can take a lot to get the fire burning again.
When we are out gardening we can be in a sexy minded state. Just today I was out pulling weeds and when my husband pulled into the driveway he was very interested in me sexually...Not because I looked like a perfect 10 but he could feel my sexy minded energy. Sexiness is the way we feel about ourselves and allowing ourselves to have sexy thoughts. I love looking at my husband with thoughts of desire and lust. I love brushing up against him in an ever so slightly erotic way that only him and I know what is being created in this small but powerful moment. I love thinking sexy, I love being sexy, I love feeling sexy and most of all I love the way my husband receives my sexy energy.
So we as women can be a lady all through out the day. We can do all the things we do on a daily basis but now we can add this sexy energy. This sexy state of mind that only you know you are using the power of your sexual creative energy to allow yourself to fully express who you are in the beauty of your everyday life.
When we are in this sexy energy we feel ready to be sexual in a moments notice. We no longer require wining and dining...these things are nice but not required. When we are using the power of our sexy energy to feel sexy all through out the day then we can feel aroused just by a soft stare that last for a few seconds, or a masculine hand brushing up and down your back. These small moments can create erotic feelings and when erotic feeling are created it is so much easier to want to share ourselves sexually.
Commit for one week to think sexy thoughts all throughout the day. See and feel your energy shift when it comes to your sexual readiness and willingness. Men can do things to make us feel sexy all throughout the day but I prefer to allow myself to determine how sexy I am feeling and how powerful my sexual energy is.
Do this for one week and feel your sexual energy expand. Don't worry it will never expand beyond your comfort level!
I am all about us girls taking on the ownership of creating an amazing sex life. I know there is power in shifting our beliefs, perceptions and emotional connection when it comes to sex. I preach for women to look inside themselves to change the way they feel about themselves sexually. In this blog I wanted to address how men can drive their lady wild in the bedroom. We all want to have explosive sex. The type of sex that creates an emotional bond that is so deep and so pure that there is complete satisfaction. If you ask me when a married couple divorces one of the big reasons is the lack of sexual satisfaction. If you are not satisfied sexually then you become frustrated and subconsciously start attracting attention from the opposite sex to fill this void. So I wanted to suggest three ways a man can satisfy his lady in the bedroom. So many women fake orgasm so even if you feel like you are an amazing lover...still try these 3 things.
1. Realize your penis has power. You have complete ownership of it so don't get so excited in the bedroom that you think all you have to do is thrust your penis into her and she will be screaming with excitement. Take a moment and picture this. You go into an ice cream shop and you get your favorite ice cream, lets say chocolate with a splash of strawberry. Now lets say you eat this as fast as you can. What happens? You get a brain freeze. You get a sharp pain that is so intense and so unpleasant that you wish you would have taken smaller bites and really enjoyed this delicious treat. Well fellas, your lady is just as delicious as that yummy ice cream. Savor her. Take smaller bites and enjoy every moment you get to please her sexually. You have the power. You have the penis. You have the ability to have her begging for you to enter her, just remember to prime her before you thrust your hard penis inside her.
2. Gently caress your lady. When you are in the bedroom and getting ready to be sexual together take time to caress her. She is a stunning beauty and remember how much you want to satisfy her in the bedroom. You want to be king of the castle and when your lady is sexually satisfied....A king you are! Caress her softly. Use your fingertips and start with her outer thigh. Gently go up and down. Then move to the top of her breast. Gently caress with your fingertips her breast but never touch her nipple! NEVER touching her nipple. Remember you are the king so you can control your urge to pounce! Use your fingertips and tease your lady. Never touching the nipples or pussy. Just driving her wild and getting her primed.
3. Here is the amazing part. The part where you get to use your penis power. We are never going to thrust our penis into our lady we are going to use this penis gently, softly and in a way that she will feel that your penis has magic powers. Slowly get on top of your lady. I know missionary style has a bad rep for being boring but take it from me it is the most sensual position for a woman to emotional, physically and mentally connect. Grab your penis and slowly, gently and lightly use the head to softly play with her clitoris. Softly and Gently. I know it is a mans nature to ram the shit out of things when it comes to your penis but just try this once. After a minute or two of softly using the head of your penis to stimulate her clitoris then the vagina is ready for your penis to enter. Enter her slowly. Only put your penis in about a half of an inch then take it out. Then a half an inch then take it out. Then a full inch then take it out. Then a full inch then take it out. Then an inch and a half then take it out. Then an inch and a half then take it out. Then two inches and take it out. Keep this up and you will know you are doing it right because your lady will be BEGGING for you to enter her fully. Don't do it. You are the king. You have the penis power. If done properly your girl will have a vaginal orgasm. A true one, a real one, a life changing sexual orgasm. Try it I promise you will be amazed.
So to wrap this all up. I know we have all heard of pussy control. Prince sings a song all about it. You have the ability to have control of your ladies pussy if you are treating it right, giving it the respect and love it deserves and satisfying her in the bedroom. A pussy loves to receive. That is one of its main purposes. So treat it right. Treat it softly. Treat it kindly and she will give you all the pleasure you ever dreamed of.
Some of these ideas are from the book " How to satisfy your woman and have her begging for more" by Naura Hayden
As a woman of the 21st century we are encouraged to explore, expand and empower ourselves. We are in the midst of the self empowerment era and we get to experience so many ways to fully awaken to our feminine power. We are taught that gratitude is the most amazing tool in this world when it comes to loving our life. We are taught that positive focus will allow us to expand and create a more positive amazing life. We are learning that we are the creators of our own reality and that we have to power to experience what we want to experience in our world. We are hearing more and more about the amazingness of self love and how self love can completely shift our worlds inside and out. We are hearing that affirmations can completely break down walls and build new ones that will allow us to fully flourish in our femininity.
I want to ask if you have every thought about using these tools to have a better connection with your vagina and with your sexual energy?
Lets take a moment and really dig into how these amazing empowerment tools can assist us in creating a deeper more fulfilling connection with our vagina and our sexual energy.
1. Be grateful for your vagina. There is nothing more empowering as a sexual woman to look in the mirror and say " Thank you vagina for all the pleasure you give me". Thank you vagina for being a receiver of the masculine and a giver of the feminine". Thank you vagina for all the beauty you offer.Be grateful for the ability to menstruate. When you are crampy and not feeling the sexiest say to yourself " Thank you for allowing me to be a woman. Thank you for giving my body the ability to procreate. Thank you for the beauty of menstruation. Thank you for allowing me to remember on a monthly basis how beautiful this gift is.
2. Think positive thoughts when it comes to your vagina. When we have a positive connection with our vagina we have a positive feeling deep inside. This positive energy comes through us in the most beautiful way. Our vagina is absolutely positively amazing. Our vagina is our gift to be able to receive. Our vagina is the essence of our feminine nature. Love your vagina. Speak and think positive thoughts about your vagina. When we have a positive relationship with our vagina we will have a positive relationship in the bedroom with our man. Love your vagina.
3. We are the creators of our own sexuality. We get to decide how we want to experience our sexual self. Decide to experience her in the most delicious way. You deserve to fully embrace your sexual self. Create your sexual world the way you want it to be. Picture how you would be the most satisfied when it comes to your sexual self and create that. Create the vision that comes to your mind. If you want dominance in your sexual life then create it and allow it to be. If you want spirituality in your sexual life then create it and allow it to be. If you want to be able to relax and be vulnerable then create that and allow it to be. Whatever and however you want your sexual self to be expressed you have the ability to determine, decide, commit and allow. Create what you deserve.
4. Affirmations. Oh how we have all heard about the power of positive affirmations. Guess what. We can use these to create a better more fulfilling sexual energy. Always us I AM...these are two of the most powerful words!
I AM allowing myself to relax into sex
I AM receiving the love that I deserve
I AM giving love easily and effortlessly
I AM comfortable with my naked self
I AM playful and excited inside the bedroom
I AM open and committed to loving sex
I AM safe to express my wants and desires
I AM easily able to reach an orgasmic state
I AM connecting to my spouse in an amazing way
I AM confident with my ability to give and receive
I AM loving my vagina in every way
I AM loving my husbands penis in every way
I AM excited to be sexual with my spouse
I AM excited to co create in the bedroom
I AM able to surrender
I AM able to receive pleasure
I AM loving and thankful for my multiple orgasms( I am still working on this affirmation)
Commit to saying these affirmations 3 times a day and then focus on positive sexual feelings and thoughts. What we think about we bring about and this statement is true when it comes to sex as well. Think about what you want and bring it about as thou it is already true. You will find that your sexual energy has not been fully able to express itself due to the thoughts you have about yourself sexually. Think positive, love your vagina and know that you have the power to create the sex life of your dreams. Stop dreaming and start embracing your sexual power. You will be so thankful you did.
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Loving your own body is a must if you want to experience amazing sex. I have heard so many people talk about how spiritual sex is. How sex takes them to these heights that are mind blowing and life changing. I have read stories about people feeling so connected as thou two bodies become one. I have heard of a woman who talks about having the most out of this world spiritual experience of heightened pleasure in the bedroom and she calls this event" Machu Picchu". So when I hear stories like this I wonder why I haven't had these amazing mind blowing spiritual sexual encounters. Where is my Machu Picchu? After taking some personal time and really feeling into this question here is what my answer revealed to me and I want to share it with you.
I am focused on my physical body. I focusing on fully showing up and really loving the connection I am experiencing on a physical level. I focus on how my body looks. I focus on if I am turning my husband on. I focus on the physical sounds I am making, as I want my husband to know that I am enjoying this sexual endeavor . I focus on arching my back and pushing my breast out in the most sensual of ways. I focus on caressing my body in a way that will drive my hubby wild. I focus on fully loving my pussy and allowing her to receive all the beautiful masculine pleasure she is taking in. I focus on feeling into my hips, circling them and allowing the energy to build so I can experience orgasmic bliss. I focus on my breathe, I focus on serving my husband. I focus on loving my body in the most powerful way. I focus on loving my husbands body and showing him my desire to please him. I focus on the physical nature of being a sexual being.These are all amazing things and bring so much passion an pleasure to the bedroom.
I love the physical part of sex. I love the erotic nature of showing myself to my husband. I love being playful and fully showing up inside the bedroom. I love the moments that we get to connect sexually and I always allow myself to fully feel into the orgasmic experience.
I believe sex comes in stages. I feel as thou the spiritual side of sex will come when we have released all the walls that keep us from fully expressing and experiencing awesome physical sex. The mental blocks that keep us trapped. The emotional blocks that keep us stuck. The physical hang ups that keep us from seeing and feeling all our sensual beauty. Once we have worked on and released many of these mental, emotional and physical blocks then we may be open enough to experience our own Machu Picchu in the bedroom.
Lets first commit to fully loving our own bodies and fully show up in our physical essence of who we truly are in the bedroom. YES, YES, YES!!!!!
60 days to a bedroom mind, body and soul program will launch on October 1st. This has been a vision of mine for a while now and it is going to be awesome.