There is no place for personal judgment in the bedroom. Personal judgment will destroy your sexual relationship.
Sex is an express of love, passion, pleasure and playfulness. Sex is amazing and can be absolutely liberating...when we allow it to be. We live in a society where there is so much duality when it comes to expressing ourselves in a sexual way. One of the first words I think of when the word sex is mentioned is ...judgment!
There is so much judgment attached to everything in the world but when it comes to sex there is a MASSIVE amounts of judgment and confusion. We see things in a black or white. Right or wrong. Good or bad. Sinner or Saint. WOW...when we think about our sexual self what are words that come up for you? When you see the word SEX what is the first thought or word that comes to your mind? Do not label this thought or word. Just feel it and then release it. Sex is a deep subject and most of us took the course with so many opinions, to much judgment and not enough sexual acceptance. While blossoming sexually we received many different downloads. We heard so many messages, we witnessed others reactions to sexual material. We were pulled this way and pushed that way and most of us have ended up very sexually confused. We heard messages such as
There are so many more examples but this is just a few to get you to become aware of all the messages you received while discovering who you were sexually. Just because a girl is comfortable with expressing her sexuality does not mean she is a slut. Just because a man expresses his desire to discover all the pleasures of his sexual self does not mean he is a pig.
We are sexual beings. Women have a part on their body for one purpose and one purpose only. Sexual pleasure. The clitoris is not needed to procreate. The clitoris is not requires for childbirth. The clitoris is not used for urination. The clitoris is for sexual pleasure and sexual pleasure only! WOW...We were created with this amazing sexual tool and with the right tender loving care the clitoris is a mechanism for orgasmic pleasure. This is so amazing. So when you feel like you should not enjoy sex, remember God gave you a specific gift. The gift of the clitoris. We as women are designed with a little hood on the top of our vagina for orgasmic pleasure! WOW...just said a silent prayer thanking God for this gift!
Do not judge yourself when it comes to who you are sexually. Sexuality is a beautiful thing and deserve no judgment. Just allowance! Allow yourself to be who you are when it comes to sex. If you want to be reserved and a little shy! Then that is perfect. If you want to be wild and crazy! Then that is perfect. If you want to discover all the wonders of your sexual self! Then this is perfect. If you want to be embarrassed sexually. Then that is perfect. NOTICE...I used the word want. These are all choices we get to create. I personally created a decision to get very comfortable with my sexual self and I felt called to share my message and mission with the world. I want to have an amazing sex life with my husband. My husband loves sex. He is sexually driven, as most men are, and the greatest gift I can give him and the greatest gift I can give myself is for me to love sex as well. It is a constant focus in my marriage.
Here is 3 tips to take the judgment out of sex.
1. Next time you see something sexual...don't create any judgment just allow it to be what it is!
2. When you see someone wearing something seductive...don't create judgment just allow it to be what it is!
3. When you hear something sexual...don't think a negative thought...just allow it to be what it is!
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In the last couple months I have paid close attention to all the movies coming out. I would say about 70% of them are demonic! The type of movie that makes me change the channel when the preview comes on, because the preview scares the shit out of me. These are not just violent movies, these are HARDCORE violent demonic movies. WHY? I don't understand why people are so drawn to these movies. I would love some comments on WHY? The movie can not possibly create a pleasant feeling. The movie can not possibly be uplifting. The movie can not possibly have a moral to the story. WHY are these hardcore violent movies so popular?
Then I have watched for any movies that have sexual content. Sexual content in a movie that does not include violence. I don't think I found one. I could have overlooked one and please tell me if I did but not one movie that is uplifting that also has some sexual content included. Sex is natural and so beautiful. I am not talking about porn. Porn is...well just that...porn. I am talking about a movie with a great story. A story that has passion, excitement, desire...not a romance novel on film. Which I believe is the females version of porn, just more socially acceptable. I am talking about a movie where there is no violence included just a movie about life, love, happiness and SEX!
WHY DOES THIS NOT EXIST?
Cutting peoples heads off or having a demon posses their body is all perfectly okay to put on the big screen BUT heaven forbid there be any type of positive sex act.
This is causing some major confusion for our society. If sex is always portrayed in a negative way it will be very difficult for sex to ever feel positive , uplifting and yes even spiritual. I feel like there is so much duality when it comes to sex. It feels good but you shouldn't do it. It is an amazing experience but only people that are lacking something in their life wants sex often. It is beautiful but only girls that are slutty and that don't have any morals enjoy sex and the list can go on and on.
Wow...No wonder so many marriages are struggling with having an amazing sexual connection with one another. Women have been taught that sex is required for babies but if we enjoy it to much we are whores and men have been taught that all men want sex and once they get married the sex will diminish if not vanish all together. So when we are struggling emotionally with wanting to love sex but feeling it is wrong, and then men are wanting sex but afraid to get rejected once again.
Then the movies reinforce all these beliefs and behaviors! Take a step back and really question your sexual behaviors and beliefs. If they are not serving you then change them. Stop watching movies that make you angry and include sexual acts in a negative and disgraceful way and start watching uplifting movies if you can find some that have sex shown in a beautiful, amazing, incredible way! Sex is one thing that we can and deserve to become comfortable with. We deserve to express our sexual self in an open and playful way. This will truly make your marriage flourish.
Questions your Sexual beliefs
Question your Sexual behaviors
Question your Sexual thoughts
Question if you are allowing to many Angry things into your life
Question what you want in your marriage when it comes to the bedroom and then take steps to shift!
Shift slowly. Small steps taken a day at a time can move mountains and I promise your mountain will be shaking with delight!
Men are such basic creatures! They can flourish and thrive on 4 things.
If we take a moment and take a look at what men want and how they operate we would be thankful that they run on such an easy operating system. They run on a system of Sex, Service, Softness and Solitary. If we can realize how happy these 4 things make a man we would be playing the hand that is so easily been dealt to us. Most women are naturally service oriented. Most women love to be soft, gentle, caring and kind. Most women understand the need and desire to have some quiet time, alone with yourself and your thoughts. Most women want to have an amazing sex life. The kind of sex life that you can actually get to the point where your husband is turning you down. haha...(This won't happen often and usually I have to plan it out when I know my hubby is super sick, just so I can say " Remember that time you turned me down!!) Anyway, if we as women can find a place of love and nurturing without treating our man like one of the kids then...whola...magic.
I treat my man like a man. I don't need him.....I WANT him. I DESIRE him. I LOVE him.
Make sure your man is feeling loved, cherished, longed for, and desired. Men want the acceptance, approval and admiration of their woman. They want love and respect and they flourish when they know their woman wants them sexually. Sex creates a feeling of love, acceptance and approval. Sex makes him feel whole, complete and happy. Sex is not the only thing he wants but he loves the feeling of sex more then you or I could ever completely understand.
Create a decision today to treat your man like the man that he is. His deep desire is to be accepted, admired and approved of. He wants your unconditional love and your unconditional sex.
Men are amazing and when we treat them with the honor they deserve you will see changes in your relationship that you only thought was possible in romantic movies.
My name is Cameo .I have been married for 19 years and with my husband for 20.5 years. I know that the sexual connection in a marriage can create strength and happiness and I also know the lack of a sexual connection can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied. Lets get real open and become sexually satisfied in our marriages!