There is no place for personal judgment in the bedroom. Personal judgment will destroy your sexual relationship.
Sex is an express of love, passion, pleasure and playfulness. Sex is amazing and can be absolutely liberating...when we allow it to be. We live in a society where there is so much duality when it comes to expressing ourselves in a sexual way. One of the first words I think of when the word sex is mentioned is ...judgment!
There is so much judgment attached to everything in the world but when it comes to sex there is a MASSIVE amounts of judgment and confusion. We see things in a black or white. Right or wrong. Good or bad. Sinner or Saint. WOW...when we think about our sexual self what are words that come up for you? When you see the word SEX what is the first thought or word that comes to your mind? Do not label this thought or word. Just feel it and then release it. Sex is a deep subject and most of us took the course with so many opinions, to much judgment and not enough sexual acceptance. While blossoming sexually we received many different downloads. We heard so many messages, we witnessed others reactions to sexual material. We were pulled this way and pushed that way and most of us have ended up very sexually confused. We heard messages such as
- All men want is sex
- men are such pigs
- That girl is so slutty, look at the way she is dressed
- That girl is such a prude
- That guy is such a player
- That girl is always wanting all the guys attention
There are so many more examples but this is just a few to get you to become aware of all the messages you received while discovering who you were sexually. Just because a girl is comfortable with expressing her sexuality does not mean she is a slut. Just because a man expresses his desire to discover all the pleasures of his sexual self does not mean he is a pig.
We are sexual beings. Women have a part on their body for one purpose and one purpose only. Sexual pleasure. The clitoris is not needed to procreate. The clitoris is not requires for childbirth. The clitoris is not used for urination. The clitoris is for sexual pleasure and sexual pleasure only! WOW...We were created with this amazing sexual tool and with the right tender loving care the clitoris is a mechanism for orgasmic pleasure. This is so amazing. So when you feel like you should not enjoy sex, remember God gave you a specific gift. The gift of the clitoris. We as women are designed with a little hood on the top of our vagina for orgasmic pleasure! WOW...just said a silent prayer thanking God for this gift!
Do not judge yourself when it comes to who you are sexually. Sexuality is a beautiful thing and deserve no judgment. Just allowance! Allow yourself to be who you are when it comes to sex. If you want to be reserved and a little shy! Then that is perfect. If you want to be wild and crazy! Then that is perfect. If you want to discover all the wonders of your sexual self! Then this is perfect. If you want to be embarrassed sexually. Then that is perfect. NOTICE...I used the word want. These are all choices we get to create. I personally created a decision to get very comfortable with my sexual self and I felt called to share my message and mission with the world. I want to have an amazing sex life with my husband. My husband loves sex. He is sexually driven, as most men are, and the greatest gift I can give him and the greatest gift I can give myself is for me to love sex as well. It is a constant focus in my marriage.
Here is 3 tips to take the judgment out of sex.
1. Next time you see something sexual...don't create any judgment just allow it to be what it is!
2. When you see someone wearing something seductive...don't create judgment just allow it to be what it is!
3. When you hear something sexual...don't think a negative thought...just allow it to be what it is!
Thank you so much for reading my blog. I am going to start doing video blogs as well. Lights..Camera...Action!