Most women are naturally service oriented. We love to take care of others and show them our love and encouragement. This is an amazing quality to have and share but when it comes to the bedroom...this can often become a frustrating attribute. We can begin to feel that it is taking to long for our spouse to pleasure us and then guilt is created because we don't want him to feel like he is giving so much with nothing in return. When we are feeling stressed in the bedroom then the blood vessels constrict, yes the ones leading to your genitals and this can cause loss of arousal making it harder to orgasm. We get to be open in the bedroom. Tell your spouse how you feel.
If you know that you are not feeling like orgasm is going to happen tonight then say something sexy and sweet...such as " oh baby, tonight I want all the focus to be on you. I want to make you my own personal playland but I do not want to orgasm, tonight it is all about you". Stating something similar to this will take the focus off you and your orgasm and place the center of attention onto him. My personal experience is you will end up having an amazing orgasm anyway because you will be relaxed and your man will not be trying so hard. Relaxed sex is the most enjoyable sex that you can experience as a woman.
Sex is all about giving and receiving. As a woman, and a woman who loves doing things for others, I love being the giver. I love making my husband the center of my sexual adventure. He loves this as well. I get more turned on by servicing my husband then I do when I do not service him. If receiving in the bedroom is difficult then focus on giving in a way that heats your fire as well. Give your hubby a slow, sexy, extremly erotic massage and tell him he is not allowed to touch you in any way. He will get so excited and turned on this will naturally turn you on as well. Some of us girls may find it difficult to enjoy sexual touch. Start focusing on giving and being the one in control when it comes to sex this will be very liberating. Even if you are extremly shy out in the world when it comes to the bedroom, change it up. You may find being the dominate one in the bedroom is just what your inner diva is begging for. When you become comfortable start allowing yourself to receive in the bedroom. It look me some time and consistant effort to allow myself to feel worthy of receiving in the bedroom without guilt attached. Giving and receiving are both equally important. I found giving to be easier so I started there and slowly allowed receiving to find a place in my heart.
Sex is amazing and our husbands want us to be satisfied in the bedroom. They can not do it all on there own. Men are easily pleased in the bedroom( in my experience) and it confuses them that we are not the same. We are wired differently. This wiring can be color coded so we know how to achieve the results we deserve. Open up and decide to be a giver and a receiver. I promise you will not regret it!
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