We live in a world that is easy to get wrapped up in all our daily thoughts. These thoughts can keep us trapped in a mind space of discomfort and dissatisfaction. Always projecting ourselves into the future or time traveling backwards into the past. Thoughts are so powerful , they can and will control your every desire if you allow them to. Thoughts keep us stuck. I am not saying that you should never have a thought as this would be impossible. I am saying that you should never have a thought when you are hot, naked and passionately connecting with your spouse or lover. At this moment you should be 100% present. Completely out of your mind and into your body. Use this wonderful sexual connection to allow the mind to rest and the body to awaken. Get into a space that you are sexually aware of all the erotic sensations you are experiencing. When your lover passionately kisses you and these passionate kisses slowly move down your neck and across your ample breast then to your smooth curvaceous belly...be present. Do not allow yourself to think " OMG he is kissing my belly and I still need to lose those last 10 pounds that have taken up residence and they call themselves love handles" Do not allow yourself to think " will he still find me sexy if he sees me naked and vulnerable". Become comfortable with and in your body. Allow yourself to completely enjoy sex. Have you ever experience the kind of sex, that 45 minutes have past ,and you have felt as this 45 minutes was experienced in a different time and in a different space. You have completely allowed yourself to get lost in sex. Sex is an emotional, physical, and spiritual experience. Sex can be absolutely amazing when we can allow ourselves to release our thought process. Sex is natural. Just as an animal has the natural ability to hunt and survive in the wilderness, we have the natural ability to be naked in front of our lover and experience complete sexual bliss. Get out of your head and your thought process that keeps you blocked from receiving all the sexual pleasure you deserve to receive. Sex is natural and sex is the one act that you can absolutely lose yourself in time and space. Allow this beautiful experience to take place in the bedroom. Sex can and will defy what we know as time and space. Sex is the most intimate, vulnerable, loving act that we can experience. Experience this pleasure with your body and your soul and leave your thoughts behind...they will be there waiting for you after this orgasmic, blissful , sexual experience. Allow yourself to get lost in sex!
In life there are so many things that can bring our confidence levels down. When we feel less confident in life then we feel less confident in the bedroom. The bedroom is one place that we can truly be ourselves. The bedroom is a place where we are loved just as we are with no limits and no expectations. If we are feeling limited in anyway it is due to a lack of confidence within side of ourselves. When we are focusing on all the things that are wrong, lacking or absent in our life then we transfer that energy sexually as well. We get to start focusing on doing things that build confidence and allow our inner being to shine brightly. My suggestion is to start with one thing. Pick one thing that will build your confidence. This one thing should be something you love. If you love writing, then start writing. If you love dancing, then take a dance class. If you love working out, then work out daily. Doing the thing you love will slowly start to build confidence and awaken your inner sexual energy and sexual confidence. If we are feeling stronger and more content daily then our sexual energy will become stronger and we will be more confident with and in our sexual connection. Sex is so amazing. Sex can and will awaken your soul in ways that only amazing sex can. When we are confident then this awakening is so powerful and allows us to open up in sexual ways that we only dreamed possible. Decide today to do something that builds your confidence. A confident person tends to be aware, awakened and amazing in and out of the bedroom. Allow yourself to own your power. Allow yourself to own your presence. Allow yourself to own your pleasure!
After reading Heart Song by Stephen Shaw , which is an amazing book, I created some new things in my life. I love to dance. I am a 35 year old woman who has not taken a professional dance class since I was 15. I have been on the club dance floors alot but never in a classroom type of setting. I decided to take a dance class. I wanted to take a class that assisted me in awakening my sexual energy. I decided to take a pole dancing class. This was not a pole fitness class. This was a pole dancing class. I absolutely loved it. I felt so comfortable and was so excited to try something new. I had butterflies in my stomach. I was nervous, anxious and excited all at the same time. This class did assist me in feeling more sexual and comfortable with my sexual energy. I was in a class with 8 woman and I was the oldest by far. I am sure the average age was 20-25. I still allowed myself to be completely comfortable. Just because I am a Mother of 3 and 35 I too can be super sexy and emit a sexual energy. I found myself in a zone. A zone of loving myself unconditionally and I was proud that I stepped out of my daily routine and did something new. I suggest that we all set a goal of trying something new this month. Something that you have always wanted to do but never dared. Step out and try something new. You will either like it or you will know that it was not what you expected at all. As moms, wives and woman we can easily settle for the same safe life. We can still be safe and step out and see if our energy flows more openly. Try something new this month and let me know how it feels.
Jeff and I have been discussing new and adventurous
things we can do to be better lovers and create more excitement in our sexual life. Yesterday we watched a documentary called " After porn ends". It was so interesting to hear the stories of individuals that experienced a life of sexual openness. Most of theseindividuals were comfortable naked and some of them were not comfortable naked and masked their discomfort with alcohol and drugs. Some of the stories we heard were really sad and some of the stories we heard were individuals that are very comfortable with their choice of being in the adult entertainment world . As I was watching this I noticed the discomfort I felt at times. I still struggle with being comfortable sexually. I really was aware of my emotional feelings. I am comfortable watching racy, exotic movies when I am all alone but this was a documentary and although it was a racy, sexy and erotic documentary, I felt uneasy watching it with Jeff. This is so weird to me. I have been married to this man since June of
2001 and we have had an intimate, sexual relationship for a year and a half
longer. WHY do I feel this way? Why at times do I feel like a
little innocent girl in an adults body. I have had some very erotic sexual
experiences in my life with Jeff and I feel like an adult woman but yet at times
I feel like I am this little shy girl who giggles when naughty words are spoke
and squirms when naked people are on T.V. I feel like I have a dual sexual
personality. A personality that at one moment is feeling like a sexy, confident,
vivacious woman who is ready to experience sexual pleasure with her husband.
Then there is this other personality that is this little girl who laughs,
giggles and feels inadequate in the bedroom. This is why I have not blogged for
a month. I am experiencing the little shy girl personality. The one that wants
to kiss her husband in a quick manner and then get my flannel pajamas on. The
personality that feels very little sexual excitement. This is so strange for me.
I thought this little girl personality had finally disappeared but here she
is...bouncing around . I am now going to start doing personal work to find out
why she is here and what she is protecting me from. I have a strong desire to
feel comfortable in my skin and a super strong desire to feel confident all the
time sexually. I want to be open , I want to be honest, I want to be vulnerable,
I want to be present and I want to know that I AM! I am strong, powerful, sexy,
vivacious, delicious, honest, vulnerable, open and aware. I know this dual
personality was created to protect me but I am know in a safe environment and
she is no longer required. I am ready to release her and stand strong in the
space of sexual satisfaction!