Mindful during sex!
Focusing on receiving during sex can be a difficult challenge. As women we are so
accustomed to giving. We are in serve mood all day and when the day turns to
night it is a switch that can be difficult to flip. Serving during sex is an
amazing gesture and we want to be serving our man but when we are not able to
receive then sex becomes something that makes us feel small. Sex is an
interaction between a man and woman and both parties shall be satisfied and
fulfilled. We get to be mindful during sex. Why are we having sex? Is it just to
be a good wife and feel like you are doing your part? Is it so your husband will
stop complaining? Are you just checking another task off of your to do list? As
women sex should be something we long for. We should be having sex so we can
feel complete as women. Sex should be something we look forward to. Sex brings
so many great emotions and connections in our marriage.
I should say mindful sex creates the emotions of being complete and
satisfied sexually. When we are just going through the motions and our mind is not focused on this sensual act then we feel separate from our man. One of the reasons women long for intimacy is to feel connected to their man. So here are a few tips to assist in getting focused.
*Focus on parts of your mans body that turns you on
*Breathe in his scent...if you love his cologne , spray it on your pillow and make sure
he is wearing this erotic scent
*When you feel yourself thinking...tell yourself to stop or focus...bed not
*beauty yourself up before bed so you feel sensual
*lighting and music and really get you feeling erotic
Remember sex is for both of you to give and to receive. Be mindful during sex so you are
getting the full benefit of this sensual act. You and your man deserve sex that
is focused, intentional and completely satisfying!
How to become a passionate woman in your marriage!
As women we long for passion. We want passionate kisses, we want passionate movies,
we want passionate love songs, we want a passionate marriage. So what can we do
to create passion in our marriage?
I have found that when I am passionate as a woman...then passion floods into all
parts of my life. When I am passionate about a topic and I am writing about it,
speaking about it and really creating a movement that can and will assist others
then my body fills more passionate and this is felt in my marriage. So my
suggestion is to find something that you are passionate about. If you are
passionate about organic foods then start blogging about organic foods, create a
face book fan page about organic foods, hold a get together at your house to educate people on the power of eating organic or find other that
have this same passion and join that group. If you are passionate about art then
start posting your art, start sharing your art, start a face book group about
art and connect with other who have the same passion. You don't have to have a
degree or be certified in anything just share your passion. When you find a
passion and you build on that passion then you will feel more passionate in
life. Marriage is a part of your life and a part that deserves a lot of passion.
When we are feeling disconnected and shut off from sharing what matters to us
the most then we feel shut off from others around us...even close others like
our spouse. Passion is something that we can build and create it is not
something that is just natural but when you find something that creates a spark
and ignites a fire in your soul that you know you have found passion. When we
feel good and passionate about something that matters to us and we are sharing
then this will really assist our marriage. When I am blogging, speaking and
connecting with friends then I feel valued as a person and this value fills me
up. When we feel valued , accepted and understood then we fill more passionate.
Passion is filling the empty space with something that makes a difference and
mean something to you. Decide today to become passionate about one thing. Just
one thing and start taking small steps to create a vehicle to share this
passion. This in turn will create value inside your soul and this value will
create passion in your marriage. When we feel valued then we can share this
value passionately with our spouse!
I wanted to share the idea of SCHEDULED SEX!
When I first heard the suggestion of scheduling sex I thought " I want to be
spontaneous and wild". I didn't want to schedule sex every Monday, Wednesday and Friday as the excitement would
be non existent. Doing more research and I have found that with extremely busy
schedules and all the stresses we encounter on a daily basis I feel the best way
to reconnect as a married couple sexually is scheduled sex. Here is why. After a long day of cleaning the house,
running the kids around, shopping for groceries, preparing dinner, bathing the
children and getting them to bed by the time I crawl into bed my mind will start
racing around. My mind says " you are so tired but you really should be intimate
with your husband". Then I go to bed feeling guilty and my husband goes to bed
feeling unsatisfied sexually. So the power of scheduling sex is that I know on
Monday after the children go to bed we have it planned to be sexual. On Tuesday
after the children go to bed I can crawl into our bed and fall asleep peacefully
with no guilt attached. The days that sex is scheduled you can think about the
evening you and your man will create. You can make sure that the sheets are
changed, you are wearing something sexy and you can get your mind thinking about
all the fun and sexual things you will be experiencing later this evening.
Scheduled sex is of great value in a marriage. When sex has become a scheduled
occurrence then the emotion and the sexually energy will continue to build and
build. You can still have amazing sex even when it is on the calendar two
to three times a week.
Start scheduling and see what it does for your marriage!
Even when we are focused and conscious of the intimate connection we are creating with our spouse there will always be up and downs. Sex is like a roller coaster, the ride is super exciting but sometimes we forget how much fun it really is and it can easily be something we walk right past. I wanted to share that sex is not going to be perfect 100% of the time. Sex may be great and exciting but in a
marriage it can and will fade in and out. My husband and I are constantly striving to enjoy our sexual connection that we love and enjoy so much but at times it can become a far reach. I know as long as sex is something I am thinking about then it will always be a goal that I am wanting to
reach. When we are striving for a goal there are great times and there are hard
times. Sex in a marriage is the same. Sex can be something so passionate and all
you and your spouse want to do and then there are those times when you would
rather not even be looked at let alone touched. We are all humans and we all
have emotions. Emotions can drive us in feeling sexy and confident and they can also drive us to feel ugly and depressed. We all have these emotions and it is completely acceptable and understandable. When we start feeling disconnected from our sexual self, take a step back and take a moment to reconnect. Sex is wonderful and absolutely amazing. Sex is a skill and with any skill we get to learn, grow and discover new ways that bring the best results into our lives. As long as we are seeking for that sexual connection with our spouse and never
allowing that desire to fade we will reach the goal. Soul bonding sex is
achievable but it may not be reached every time we are intimate. Great sex is
achievable but it may not be reached every time we are intimate. Like I said at
the beginning of this blog...Sex is like a roller coaster, many ups and downs, a
lot of ins and outs and sometimes our belly flutters and sometimes we feel
nausea but as long as we are riding the ride and we are focusing on growing and
achieving an amazing intimate connection we will reach our end goal ...Electrifying, Soul bonding sex with our spouse!
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My name is Cameo .I have been married for 19 years and with my husband for 20.5 years. I know that the sexual connection in a marriage can create strength and happiness and I also know the lack of a sexual connection can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied. Lets get real open and become sexually satisfied in our marriages!