What is the first thought that pops into your head when you hear the words Oral Sex? Is it a thought of openness and comfort? Is the thought of oral sex something you run from? How do you feel when you think about the act of performing oral sex? These are all very personal questions and oral sex is a very personal decision. I know some are taught that oral sex should never be experienced...usually by their religion, parents or someone they trust. Some feel like oral sex is dirty and disgusting. Some feel very uncomfortable venturing into the world of oral sex because they feel like they are doing it wrong. Oral sex is absolutely amazing in my book but I did not always feel this way. I have always loved receiving oral pleasure...I just felt disconnect when I was the one giving oral pleasure. I always felt like I wasn't doing it right. I felt like I was average in this department of my sex life and I really wanted to be a shining star. A woman who knows how to please her man orally. So I started asking questions in the bedroom. How does this feel? Do you like it when I do that? I ask for my husband to guide and direct me so I can feel like I am performing in a way that is pleasing to him. After releasing my emotional attachments I had connected to performing oral sex I have really blossomed in the bedroom. I now know I can perform very sexually and sensually in the area of oral sex. I have released my thoughts of shame and guilt around this subject and replaced them with love and pleasure. I want to please my
husband in a hot, sexy, sensual way. Now that I have gave my self permission to
be open and connected to loving the experience of performing oral sex I feel
content. I challenge you to take a moment or two and connect with your thoughts
on this subject and then QUESTION THEM. Do not just believe what you have heard, been told, or experienced a few times and then placed immediate judgment. Open up to yourself. Open up to the thought that things could be different in this
area of your sex life. When you truly love and trust your spouse oral sex can be
beautiful, intense and full of pleasure. I am so glad that I questioned my
thoughts on this subject. With work and applied effort I feel very connected to
my husband and I know that I can please him in a way that is very erotic and
very sensual and feel wonderful doing it.
As I watched an episode of Everybody loves Raymond today I couldn't help but laugh.
As Debra is trying to talk openly to Raymond about what she would like more of
in the bedroom but she couldn't. She felt so uncomfortable discussing this
subject. I know that sharing something so personal , even with our spouse can be
intimidating and a little frightening. We get to take a deep breath and get real
comfortable discussing sex. The things we like, the things we don't like, the
things we want more of and the things we would like to try. Sex is a playground.
When we were young we didn't go to the playground and only swing. We went to the
playground and ran to swings, then off to the monkey bars, then over to the
balance beam, then over to the slide, then off to the basketball court and then
rolled down the steep hill. We wanted to try everything to find out what we
liked and didn't like. We didn't look at the slide and say " No I don't think I
would like that". We tried it once and fell in love with the sensation of slipping and sliding. The same factor goes into the bedroom. Open up. Try something new. Get comfortable with your sexuality. Get comfortable sharing your inner desires with the person that can bring them to life. Great sex can change your whole life. You will feel confident, secure, sexy, vivacious and satisfied. You will feel happy, peaceful, excited and sensual. Get comfortable with your sexuality and OWN IT!!!
This is not the episode I was watching but you will get a huge laugh at this one!