Oral Sex...To give or not to give!

What is the first thought that pops into your head when you hear the words Oral Sex? Is it a thought of openness and comfort? Is the thought of oral sex something you run from? How do you feel when you think about the act of performing oral sex?  These are all very personal questions and oral sex is a very personal decision. I know some are taught that oral sex should never be experienced...usually by their religion, parents or someone they trust. Some feel like oral sex is dirty and disgusting. Some feel very uncomfortable venturing into the world of oral sex because they feel like they are doing it wrong. Oral sex is absolutely amazing in my book but I did not always feel this way. I have always loved receiving oral pleasure...I just felt disconnect when I was the one giving oral pleasure. I always felt like I wasn't doing it right. I felt like I was average in this department of my sex life and I really wanted to be a shining star. A woman who knows how to please her man orally.  So I started asking questions in the bedroom. How does this feel? Do you like it when I do that? I ask for my husband to guide and direct me so I can feel like I am performing in a way that is pleasing to him. After releasing my emotional attachments I had connected to performing oral sex I have really blossomed in the bedroom. I now know I can perform very sexually and sensually in the area of oral sex. I have released my thoughts of shame and guilt around this subject and replaced them with love and pleasure. I want to please my
husband in a hot, sexy, sensual way. Now that I have gave my self permission to
be open and connected to loving the experience of performing oral sex I feel
content. I challenge you to take a moment or two and connect with your thoughts
on this subject and then QUESTION THEM. Do not just believe what you have heard, been told, or experienced a few times and then placed immediate judgment. Open up to yourself. Open up to the thought that things could be different in this
area of your sex life. When you truly love and trust your spouse oral sex can be
beautiful, intense and full of pleasure. I am so glad that I questioned my
thoughts on this subject. With work and applied effort I feel very connected to
my husband and I know that I can please him in a way that is very erotic and
very sensual and feel wonderful doing it.

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