What if the answer to all that you have been asking yourself when it comes to sex , is right inside you?

Why do we keep looking for answers outside of ourselves? When all we are wanting to discover is how to connect to ourselves in a more beautiful way.

How can we possibly enjoy pleasure inside of the bedroom if we can not even stand the sight of our own body?

Did you know that on average women have 13 negative thoughts about their bodies, everyday? 

Did you know that 9 out of 10 women do not feel comfortable in a bikini or a full piece bathing suit.

Did you know that most women never even look at their bodies in a beautiful and loving way, with thoughts of appreciation and pleasure. 

Did you know that most women feel in competition with other women of they are always comparing themselves to their own thoughts of what they think is beautiful?

Did you know that most women never have spent any time looking at their breasts with appreciation and love or paying any attention to their genitals?

These are just a few things that are creating a huge disconnect when it comes to us girls receiving pleasure inside of our everyday life. 

WHAT IF THE ANSWER TO MORE PLEASURE INSIDE THE BEDROOM IS ....FALLING IN LOVE WITH OURSELVES!!!

When we create a conscious decision to fall in love with all that we are we give ourselves permission to be at peace with the woman we see in the mirror.

When we finally allow ourselves to stop being at war with who we are as a woman then we can become a woman who is healing her sensual soul.

How about we all choose in when it comes to loving ourselves more. It will not happen overnight and it will be a journey but it will be the most beautiful discovery process you have ever experienced.

You are beautiful! You are amazing! You are worthy! You are loved! Your body is a miracle! Your heart is expanding. You are a divine sensual sister and with a commitment to love yourself for all that you are....this includes the light and the dark, the feminine and the masculine, the warrior and the princess, then you will fall in love with not just the parts that you feel are acceptable you will fall in love with the depth of who you are as a woman!

Love yourself more each and everyday and allow yourself to be seen, felt and heard!

Open up and shine my beautiful, sensual sister!

Come join us @ The Sisterhood of Sensuality

Have you ever been deeply hurt ?

Have you ever experienced emotional trauma?

​Have you ever seen something that changed your earthly life forever?

Have you witnessed or experienced intense sexual pain?​

I ask you these questions because these experiences will show up in the bedroom.
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For years I completely numbed myself from feeling pleasure.  The first few years of my life were the scariest years of my life. My mother, who I love and forgive, was married to an abusive alcoholic. There was constant fighting and intense physical abuse in our home. These are the years that we discover our sense of self. What I discovered in these moments forever changed my life.

​I am now 40 and some of these emotions still arise. If the first man in our life was a man that completely terrified us then it is really hard to allow ourselves to be vulnerable with any man. We can be kind of vulnerable but we never will fully allow our guard to be released until we allow ourselves to trust again.

​Here are 3 steps we can take to break down the guarded gate and start receiving the pleasure we deserve.

1. ALLOW YOURSELF EMOTIONAL SPACE TO EXPRESS EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.  We get taught that certain emotions are good and accepted and then there are certain emotions that are absolutely horrific and should not be expressed...ever. We get to give ourselves room to feel all the spectrum of emotions and trust that every emotion is completely safe and has a purpose. Anger, sadness, shame, guilt, hatred, just to name a few,  all deserve to be felt. Happiness, excitement, courage, faith and love, just to name a few,  all deserve to be felt as well. When we don't allow certain emotions to be part of our experience we block out the good feeling emotion that counters it. When we do this , we become numb. Decide today to express your emotions and feelings. Write them down on paper, share them with your spouse, find an emotional energy healer , or just talk to yourself. When we allow ourselves to let our guard down and start loving every part of who we are then we can show up in an authentic place.
2. FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF. Take some time and fall back in love with who you are as a person. It is so easy to become focused on the things we do not like about ourselves. What we think about we bring about, so think positive and beautiful thoughts about yourself. I am not saying that you have to be cocky. I am saying that you must learn to love yourself. When we work on loving our physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and sexual self we become more enlightened and in touch with who we truly are in this beautiful world. When we work on loving every part of ourselves then we can show up powerfully in the bedroom and receive amazing pleasure as our focus will be on all the things we love and cherish. Take time every morning to speak powerful statements to your soul. Look yourself in the eyes and start building yourself up.
3. THINK POSITIVE WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR SEXUAL SELF. We are all sexual beings. We long to be able to express our sexual wants and desires. We all crave sexual pleasure and sexual satisfaction. Allow yourself to start thinking about sex in a positive and beautiful way. It is easy to fall into the trap of what sex is and what sex is not. Just google Sex after marriage and look what you find. The search is filled with negative statements and negative articles. We have been conditioned to believe that sex after marriage diminishes and is never as good as it once was. I completely disagree. Sex after marriage is absolutely amazing and can be completely mind blowing. Sex can be full of love, passion, energy and flavor. This can be achieved. It starts with monitoring our thoughts about sex. We must be thinking happy and positive thoughts. We require a sex positive outlook when it comes to the bedroom. Start today to create some fun affirmations and allow yourself to start thinking and fantasizing about the amazing sex life you are creating.

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​Sex in marriage is what you make of it. You can choose to shut down and close shop or you can choose to feel through the pain and get to the pleasure. We must feel all our emotions so we can experience the pleasure that is our birthright. Start your journey today.
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​Reach out to me as I love working with people on their healing journey.