I am all about us girls taking on the ownership of creating an amazing sex life. I know there is power in shifting our beliefs, perceptions and emotional connection when it comes to sex. I preach for women to look inside themselves to change the way they feel about themselves sexually. In this blog I wanted to address how men can drive their lady wild in the bedroom. We all want to have explosive sex. The type of sex that creates an emotional bond that is so deep and so pure that there is complete satisfaction. If you ask me when a married couple divorces one of the big reasons is the lack of sexual satisfaction. If you are not satisfied sexually then you become frustrated and subconsciously start attracting attention from the opposite sex to fill this void. So I wanted to suggest three ways a man can satisfy his lady in the bedroom. So many women fake orgasm so even if you feel like you are an amazing lover...still try these 3 things.
1. Realize your penis has power. You have complete ownership of it so don't get so excited in the bedroom that you think all you have to do is thrust your penis into her and she will be screaming with excitement. Take a moment and picture this. You go into an ice cream shop and you get your favorite ice cream, lets say chocolate with a splash of strawberry. Now lets say you eat this as fast as you can. What happens? You get a brain freeze. You get a sharp pain that is so intense and so unpleasant that you wish you would have taken smaller bites and really enjoyed this delicious treat. Well fellas, your lady is just as delicious as that yummy ice cream. Savor her. Take smaller bites and enjoy every moment you get to please her sexually. You have the power. You have the penis. You have the ability to have her begging for you to enter her, just remember to prime her before you thrust your hard penis inside her.
2. Gently caress your lady. When you are in the bedroom and getting ready to be sexual together take time to caress her. She is a stunning beauty and remember how much you want to satisfy her in the bedroom. You want to be king of the castle and when your lady is sexually satisfied....A king you are! Caress her softly. Use your fingertips and start with her outer thigh. Gently go up and down. Then move to the top of her breast. Gently caress with your fingertips her breast but never touch her nipple! NEVER touching her nipple. Remember you are the king so you can control your urge to pounce! Use your fingertips and tease your lady. Never touching the nipples or pussy. Just driving her wild and getting her primed.
3. Here is the amazing part. The part where you get to use your penis power. We are never going to thrust our penis into our lady we are going to use this penis gently, softly and in a way that she will feel that your penis has magic powers. Slowly get on top of your lady. I know missionary style has a bad rep for being boring but take it from me it is the most sensual position for a woman to emotional, physically and mentally connect. Grab your penis and slowly, gently and lightly use the head to softly play with her clitoris. Softly and Gently. I know it is a mans nature to ram the shit out of things when it comes to your penis but just try this once. After a minute or two of softly using the head of your penis to stimulate her clitoris then the vagina is ready for your penis to enter. Enter her slowly. Only put your penis in about a half of an inch then take it out. Then a half an inch then take it out. Then a full inch then take it out. Then a full inch then take it out. Then an inch and a half then take it out. Then an inch and a half then take it out. Then two inches and take it out. Keep this up and you will know you are doing it right because your lady will be BEGGING for you to enter her fully. Don't do it. You are the king. You have the penis power. If done properly your girl will have a vaginal orgasm. A true one, a real one, a life changing sexual orgasm. Try it I promise you will be amazed.
So to wrap this all up. I know we have all heard of pussy control. Prince sings a song all about it. You have the ability to have control of your ladies pussy if you are treating it right, giving it the respect and love it deserves and satisfying her in the bedroom. A pussy loves to receive. That is one of its main purposes. So treat it right. Treat it softly. Treat it kindly and she will give you all the pleasure you ever dreamed of.
Some of these ideas are from the book " How to satisfy your woman and have her begging for more" by Naura Hayden
Lets stop for a moment and think of how many times we see ourselves in the mirror? Everyday we are seeing our own self image at least 10-20 times a day. When we wake up in the morning and walk into the bathroom there is a mirror. When we get into our car there is a mirror. When we use the bathroom again Mirror. There are glass windows that show us our reflection. There are glass cabinets that show us our reflection. Heck even a spoon reflect back to us our self image. So my question is ...ARE YOU USING THE MIRROR TO ENHANCE YOUR SENSUALITY?
We have two choice every time we look in the mirror. We can view our self image in a positive light or we can view our self image in a negative light. One feels good and one feels bad. When we create a conscious choice to use the mirror to empower our vision of who we truly are then this is enhancing our sensuality. If we are using the mirror and only seeing our flaws, our faults and experiencing self judgment then this is taking away from our sensuality. Commit today to use the mirror as a tool of empowerment and love. Use the mirror to reflect back to you all your beauty and amazingness. Take time every time you look in the mirror and realize how sexy you are. How sensual you are. How beautiful you are. How you are truly a gift and take the time to love yourself completely. Loving who we truly are will enhance our sensuality, our sexuality and our desire to want to share this with our spouse. The mirror can make us or break us. It can empower us or defeat us. It can allow us to see a Radiant Goddess or it can allow us to see someone broken and unworthy. Use the mirror to expand your self worth and self love. Commit for 7 days to use the mirror in the most powerful positive way. Use the mirror to see your beauty and awesomeness. Anytime a negative thought creeps in surround it with white light and focus on love for just a moment. The negative thought will disappear. Use this tool for 7 days. You will see, feel and hear everything with more beauty and love. You will want to share yourself with your spouse because you will be loving yourself in a deeper more pure way.
The mirror is an amazing tool. It will increase your sexuality as well as your sensuality. Use this powerful tool in a powerful way and experience the difference. LOVE YOURSELF!
I work with women to release trapped emotions that keep them stuck when it comes to embracing their sensual self. Message me so we can work together.
Sex requires effort. I should say GREAT SEX requires effort. When I was a teenager I would watch these romantic movies. The ones that are filled with drama. The hate, the betrayal, the hurt, the lost love, the hot and heavy passion. The type of passion that was fueled by negative emotions. Sex is not a negative emotion. Sex is a positive emotion. Yes I am using the word emotion as sex always comes from emotion. When is the last time you had sex with zero emotion? It never happens. We either feel positive emotions or negative emotions. One feels good and one feels bad. We want sex to be filled with positive emotion. This requires effort. Think about this for a moment. When we want to learn to cook what do we do? We get some cook books, watch some youtube videos, look up some recipes’ and then we try different variations of meals. Which ones are good, which ones are okay and which ones are down right awful. Well this is the same with sex. When we want great sex we should get some books, watch some youtube videos( haha) and try different recipes'. Some of these recipes' will be Good, some will be okay and others will be a recipes' you never want to use again. Sex is so much fun when we let our guard down and allow ourselves to be pleasured and experience creativity. The bedroom is the married couples playground. This is the place where you can express your fun side, your serious side, your erotic side as well as your soulful side. Sex is a physical act and it can also have spiritual beauty to it as well.
Commit to experiment in the bedroom. Try 3 new ways to connect in the bedroom over the next week. I feel sex should be experienced at least 3 times a week. I know it may sound like a lot but if you are not committed to being sexual on a regular basis you will fall into the ROOM MATE category and this can become the reality of the relationship. DON'T LET THIS HAPPEN. It seems to me the longer you go without having sex the easier and easier it becomes to live without it. I have also found the opposite to be true. The more you have sex on a regular basis the more sex you will continue to have because it creates a bond that you will cherish and long for.
Here are some examples of different things you can try.
1. Put on some soulful music, light an incent, put on some dim lighting and commit to making out for at least 10 minutes with your clothes on. ( Remember this when you were dating) so much fun!
2. Get some sexy food. Whip cream and chocolate syrup are always good ones. Ice cream is good as well but it is sooooo cold. Have some fun with one another. You can put these things on your own body and surprise your spouse or co create.
3. Tie your man up. Some times men are so quick to be touching, rubbing and wanting to get to the vagina as soon as possible. Take his touch away from him in a sexy sensual way. Tie his hands to the bedpost or to anything that makes it so you can caress his body and drive him mad. You will love this. Woman love control in the bedroom.
4. The vagina longs to be primed for the penis to enter. Commit to having your husband work with you to get you so excited and so ready that you are begging for him to thrust his penis into you. When your energy is so explosive and you are ready to be entered you will be amazed with erotic sensations.
Understanding your mans sexual desires. There is an opportunity to create the most amazing connection with our guys if we really tap into what makes them tick. Men want to be loved, appreciated, respected, approved of, desired and longed for. Men also want sex! As women we get to really take a moment and think of the last time we really rocked our guys world. I am not talking about letting him get on top of you and do his thing because it is your wifely duty. I am talking about taking time to plan the evening. Plan the seduction, plan the playfulness, plan the mood, plan the setting and play the part. Sex is such a fun way to express our creativity. In the next week commit to creating one night of hot ,erotic, sexy, seductive, mmm...mmm....mmm sex! Plan it out. The statement " if you fail to plan you plan to fail". I think this person was talking about sex( haha). Seriously, we plan our day out. We make a list, we check it twice, we are going to find out who's naughty or nice. Be Naughty. Be Seductive. Be playful. Be Sexy. Be Creative. Take a moment and plan out a sexual evening and surprise your husband. Get connected to your sexual energy. Get all sexed up. We have and yes I used the word HAVE to take control of our sexual satisfaction and create hotness in the bedroom. I know most women say " He expects me to get in bed and just be ready. I want foreplay, I want romance, I want him to take more time". I agree with you that these things have some relevance but we have the power to create what we want to experience sexually. When it comes to me and my hubby, He is down for anything I throw his way. He loves sexual excitement as much as he loves having a sexual night that is not so exciting. He just loves sex. It can be fast or slow. It can be a 5 minute quickie or it can be a 2 hour sexual energy exchange. I kind of hate the word making love because you love someone you don't make love to someone. Anyway....Your husband probably loves sex no matter how you are wanting to give it to him. So decide to take the time to plan it out so it serves your desires. It stimulates your wanting. It increases your excitement. We take time to plan a vacation because we want everything to go smoothly and we want to not miss all the wonderful attractions. Sex is the same thing. Sex will go smoother and you will have more fun when you put some effort into it. Take time and plan something sexual. I promise you that you will find yourself excited and a bit horny. We have the ability as women to take control in the bedroom because we are the ones that wants more in the bedroom. Most men are loving any type of sex but the type of sex you will have when you plan it out will excite you, excite your husband and you will fill a new spark. A little sizzle. You will awaken your sensual self. Be creative and let your sexual side be exposed. You will feel happy, peaceful and more centered in life. Get planning girl!
My name is Cameo .I have been married for 19 years and with my husband for 20.5 years. I know that the sexual connection in a marriage can create strength and happiness and I also know the lack of a sexual connection can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied. Lets get real open and become sexually satisfied in our marriages!