As I am reading my book, The big fun sexy sex book, it talks about the new hot thing in the world called Choreplay. Choreplay is referring to men doing chores around the house and as he pitches in, us girls will get sexually stimulated. Not on the spot but later in the bedroom we will be more connected to our man because he has helped out around the house.
I am all for my husband helping out around the house. I love it when he does the dishes, cleans up the kitchen, helps fold laundry, vacuums, and makes the bed. I love that he wants to make sure he is not taking advantage of having a woman around the house. I love that he will get up and pitch in....but this never turns me on sexually.
I am grateful. I am happy. I am thankful. I am never turned on, or feel sexually stimulated in any way when it comes to him doing chores around the house.
Now I do get sexually stimulated when he mows the lawn, washes the cars, fixes the disposal, changes the oil, trims the trees and does any other thing that shows his masculine strength. I love watching my man mow the lawn. I find it very attractive. He is sweaty, his biceps are tight, his sunglasses are on and he is out doing something manly. ( I know many women mow the lawn, hell I mow the lawn but when my guy does it I notice the yummy masculine energy).
So if we want to be turned on when our man does chores around the house, we must notice that he is doing something nice, kind, and sweet. We must take a moment and think consciously that we have an amazing husband who is doing something kind and giving. Then we must have a sexual thought. Something like, Now that he washed the dishes, I'll show him what dirty is really like. A sexual thought must be created in this moment or we will just take it as a kind gesture and move onto the next thing.
It is not natural for men to want to do house chores. Since the beginning of time the women stayed home and took care of the family and the man went out to hunt, gather and provide protection. I know that times have changed but we still must make an exerted effort to tell our man thank you for helping out around the house and then thinking some type of yummy , sexual thought. Also it is a great habit to get into to just tell your guy, Thank you for providing for the family and taking care of us. I make sure I tell my hubby this at least 3 times a week.
Choreplay may bring some stimulating energy into your relationship. You first must take note of the act, be grateful for his help, and then think a sexual thought that will activate sexual energy.
I know that it can become so easy to take one another for granted, get in the habit of focusing on the good, focusing on the helpful gestures, focusing on what you love about this man and then sharing yourself with him physically, mentally, spiritually and sexually.
When we first start dating it seems so easy to feel comfortable expressing our girly figures. We focus on the art of seduction. We take time to make sure our legs are shaved, our bikini area is waxed and we smell absolutely delicious. We plan our outfits, make sure our hair looks amazing, our make up is done nicely and we have fun creating the canvas of feminine art. We focus on the beauty that we want to share and our feminine essence which we know will hook a man and drive him to want us.
FAST FORWARD 15 YEARS, 3 KIDS, 2 DOGS, FINACIAL GAINS, FINANCIAL LOSSES, MOOD SWINGS, BAD DAYS, GOOD DAYS, DAILY STRESS, NIGHTLY RITUALS, FAMILY DUTIES, TAKING THE KIDS HERE, TAKING THE KIDS THERE, WATCHING NETFLIXS, SEEING THE GOOD SIDE, SEEING THE NOT SO YUMMY SIDE AND WHOLA....
WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU TOOK THE TIME TO CREATE YOUR FEMININE ART FOR YOUR MAN?
I know that the instant I ask this question there will be an immediate story run inside your brain that says something like this " When is the last time my man did something romantic for me?"
I want to answer this with another question. Do you agree that we should not fight fire with fire?
We must commit to creating something exciting inside our marriage. Sex and sexual chemistry is super exciting. I strongly believe that as women we have the power to transform our marriage into something magical. To create something magical you first need a few ingredients.
1- Excitement to create something new
2- Passion to show up fully in your feminine essence
3- Confidence, even when you feel unsure....there is magic in getting uncomfortable
4- Love for yourself and for your man
5- Willingness to explore new terrain in the bedroom
It is so easy to forget how powerful this piece is in marriage. The sex and sexual yumminess deserves to be a focus. We must commit to remembering how amazing we are, how beautiful we are, how sexy we are. Our husbands want us to want to share this with them. They want to feel desired. They long to feel wanted. They love to feel our feminine bodies. I know that it is challenging with all the daily things that are taking place in our life. Just commit to one day.
Try this just one time and see if it creates a feeling of power, love, confidence, and arousal. Pick a day and create your feminine canvas. Turn yourself into the yummy goddess you know you are. Allow yourself to have fun with this. It will create some butterflies in your stomach. Remember butterflies in the stomach? You can still experience this after years and years of marriage. You now get to create it. Step outside your comfort zone in the bedroom and do something erotic.
You will feel alive. You will feel inspired. You will feel passionate. You will feel like the sexual diva you are!