As I am reading my book, The big fun sexy sex book, it talks about the new hot thing in the world called Choreplay. Choreplay is referring to men doing chores around the house and as he pitches in, us girls will get sexually stimulated. Not on the spot but later in the bedroom we will be more connected to our man because he has helped out around the house.
I am all for my husband helping out around the house. I love it when he does the dishes, cleans up the kitchen, helps fold laundry, vacuums, and makes the bed. I love that he wants to make sure he is not taking advantage of having a woman around the house. I love that he will get up and pitch in....but this never turns me on sexually.
I am grateful. I am happy. I am thankful. I am never turned on, or feel sexually stimulated in any way when it comes to him doing chores around the house.
Now I do get sexually stimulated when he mows the lawn, washes the cars, fixes the disposal, changes the oil, trims the trees and does any other thing that shows his masculine strength. I love watching my man mow the lawn. I find it very attractive. He is sweaty, his biceps are tight, his sunglasses are on and he is out doing something manly. ( I know many women mow the lawn, hell I mow the lawn but when my guy does it I notice the yummy masculine energy).
So if we want to be turned on when our man does chores around the house, we must notice that he is doing something nice, kind, and sweet. We must take a moment and think consciously that we have an amazing husband who is doing something kind and giving. Then we must have a sexual thought. Something like, Now that he washed the dishes, I'll show him what dirty is really like. A sexual thought must be created in this moment or we will just take it as a kind gesture and move onto the next thing.
It is not natural for men to want to do house chores. Since the beginning of time the women stayed home and took care of the family and the man went out to hunt, gather and provide protection. I know that times have changed but we still must make an exerted effort to tell our man thank you for helping out around the house and then thinking some type of yummy , sexual thought. Also it is a great habit to get into to just tell your guy, Thank you for providing for the family and taking care of us. I make sure I tell my hubby this at least 3 times a week.
Choreplay may bring some stimulating energy into your relationship. You first must take note of the act, be grateful for his help, and then think a sexual thought that will activate sexual energy.
I know that it can become so easy to take one another for granted, get in the habit of focusing on the good, focusing on the helpful gestures, focusing on what you love about this man and then sharing yourself with him physically, mentally, spiritually and sexually.