50 Shades of OMG!!!

I am 35 and I have never read a romance/ erotic type of book. I am a girl who wants to experience things before I make judgment even thou I have read a lot about how destructive these types of books can be. After all the talk about 50 shades of grey I thought now would be a great time to see what these books are all about. I bought the trilogy and dove into book number one. The book is 506 pages and it took me about a week to read it. This book is
very well written. It amazed me how talented the author is. 
How someone can write in such detail...amazing. What is NOT amazing is
how awful it made me feel. I am in a great marriage with an amazing man and I
have an amazing sex life but this book made me feel as I am missing something.
This book made me feel like I am missing Christian Grey. I know that my
subconscious was unable to understand that I was reading these word and this was
not really happening to me. I feel ,as a woman married or not, these type of
books are more destructive then porn. I have seen porn in my life and I never
had the thought " I wish I was that girl...I wish I had her life" but when I was
reading this book I was wishing I was Anastasia Steele. I found my subconscious
mind clinging to this want. This want of seduction, adventure and complete
intenseness. The want of having someone that wants me so bad sexually he would
do anything to be with me. The want to be dominated in the bedroom when really I
would never want to be spanked with a leather belt 6 times. NEVER! I have now
had my own personal experience reading a romance, erotic type of book and can
speak from first hand knowledge. DO NOT READ THESE TYPES OF BOOKS if you want an
amazing sexual connection with your spouse. Your spouse is real. They have real
love, real wants and desires and real life issues. No one can live up to the
expectation of a fantasy man or woman. Christian Grey is not real...Anastasia
Steele is not real. Marriage and a great sexual connection with chemistry is
real. Start focusing on connecting to your spouse in every way. Fantasy has no
place in your marriage. IMAGINATION...this is something that does have a place
in your marriage. Use your OWN imagination to create new and exciting adventures
in your bedroom. Use your own wants and desire and brings these to life in the bedroom. Write your own erotic book with you and your husband as the characters and then act these scenes out. Get open and get real with one another but my opinion on romantic novels is definitely...2 thumbs down!!  

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