I am all about us girls taking on the ownership of creating an amazing sex life. I know there is power in shifting our beliefs, perceptions and emotional connection when it comes to sex. I preach for women to look inside themselves to change the way they feel about themselves sexually. In this blog I wanted to address how men can drive their lady wild in the bedroom. We all want to have explosive sex. The type of sex that creates an emotional bond that is so deep and so pure that there is complete satisfaction. If you ask me when a married couple divorces one of the big reasons is the lack of sexual satisfaction. If you are not satisfied sexually then you become frustrated and subconsciously start attracting attention from the opposite sex to fill this void. So I wanted to suggest three ways a man can satisfy his lady in the bedroom. So many women fake orgasm so even if you feel like you are an amazing lover...still try these 3 things.
1. Realize your penis has power. You have complete ownership of it so don't get so excited in the bedroom that you think all you have to do is thrust your penis into her and she will be screaming with excitement. Take a moment and picture this. You go into an ice cream shop and you get your favorite ice cream, lets say chocolate with a splash of strawberry. Now lets say you eat this as fast as you can. What happens? You get a brain freeze. You get a sharp pain that is so intense and so unpleasant that you wish you would have taken smaller bites and really enjoyed this delicious treat. Well fellas, your lady is just as delicious as that yummy ice cream. Savor her. Take smaller bites and enjoy every moment you get to please her sexually. You have the power. You have the penis. You have the ability to have her begging for you to enter her, just remember to prime her before you thrust your hard penis inside her.
2. Gently caress your lady. When you are in the bedroom and getting ready to be sexual together take time to caress her. She is a stunning beauty and remember how much you want to satisfy her in the bedroom. You want to be king of the castle and when your lady is sexually satisfied....A king you are! Caress her softly. Use your fingertips and start with her outer thigh. Gently go up and down. Then move to the top of her breast. Gently caress with your fingertips her breast but never touch her nipple! NEVER touching her nipple. Remember you are the king so you can control your urge to pounce! Use your fingertips and tease your lady. Never touching the nipples or pussy. Just driving her wild and getting her primed.
3. Here is the amazing part. The part where you get to use your penis power. We are never going to thrust our penis into our lady we are going to use this penis gently, softly and in a way that she will feel that your penis has magic powers. Slowly get on top of your lady. I know missionary style has a bad rep for being boring but take it from me it is the most sensual position for a woman to emotional, physically and mentally connect. Grab your penis and slowly, gently and lightly use the head to softly play with her clitoris. Softly and Gently. I know it is a mans nature to ram the shit out of things when it comes to your penis but just try this once. After a minute or two of softly using the head of your penis to stimulate her clitoris then the vagina is ready for your penis to enter. Enter her slowly. Only put your penis in about a half of an inch then take it out. Then a half an inch then take it out. Then a full inch then take it out. Then a full inch then take it out. Then an inch and a half then take it out. Then an inch and a half then take it out. Then two inches and take it out. Keep this up and you will know you are doing it right because your lady will be BEGGING for you to enter her fully. Don't do it. You are the king. You have the penis power. If done properly your girl will have a vaginal orgasm. A true one, a real one, a life changing sexual orgasm. Try it I promise you will be amazed.
So to wrap this all up. I know we have all heard of pussy control. Prince sings a song all about it. You have the ability to have control of your ladies pussy if you are treating it right, giving it the respect and love it deserves and satisfying her in the bedroom. A pussy loves to receive. That is one of its main purposes. So treat it right. Treat it softly. Treat it kindly and she will give you all the pleasure you ever dreamed of.
Some of these ideas are from the book " How to satisfy your woman and have her begging for more" by Naura Hayden