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9/29/2015

3 things you can do to increase your sexual wants, thoughts and desires

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Are you ashamed of your sexual wants, thoughts and desires?

I have noticed that if we feel ashamed of our sexual side then we want to box it up and place it high up on a shelf...out of sight, out of mind. We want to make sure that this sexual energy is kept under control. When we feel ashamed we feel emotions such as depression, shame, guilt, anger and many others. If we feel we are not safe expressing and/or owning our sexual energy then of course we would just suppress it. The more we push our sexual thoughts, desires and wants down the more they completely consume us. They consume us in a secretive way. In ways such as getting mad the kids for little things, attacking our spouse with hurtful words or a mindless conversation, feeling worthless, eating ourselves into a world of numbness and filling the void. Our sexual energy is our creative energy. We are sexual beings. Having sexual wants, thought and desires is 100% normal and natural. We may not act out every thought, want or desire but it is completely acceptable to allow yourself to feel and connect with your sexual self.

Here are 3 ways that can assist you in opening up to your sexual thoughts, wants and desires.


Spend 5 minutes each day thinking about your sexual side

We dedicate time to so many things. Taking the kids to school, doing the laundry, washing the dishes, reading a book, making dinner and so many other things. I would love for you to consider the possibility of spending time getting in touch with your sexual wants, thoughts, and desire. Take 5 minutes and allow yourself to tap into your sexual energy.  What we focus on expands. We want to be focusing on being sexually fulfilled and showing up in a space of love, peace and sensuality. Take time and meditate and add an extra 5 minutes to tap into your sexual wants, thoughts and desires.

Work your core as well as kegels

We work out for so many different reasons. Did you know that exercise creates better sex. The core is the place where our  sexual energy resides( this energy also resides in the heart but we open up our heart through love and trust). When we are doing physical workouts commit to a different workout routine 2 times a week. Add some hip thrust and some deep core work. Do 50 kegels a day. The vaginal muscles are just that muscles. They deserve a great workout as well. The rewards are two fold here as you will experience more sexual pleasure but you also increase your chances of not having to wear depends when you get older! We must dedicate time to strengthen our sexual muscles.

Do something exciting

There is nothing else that will shut down your sexual wants, thought and desires as boredom will. Create something sexy. Create something spontaneous. Create something sensual. I am not saying that this will be the most comfortable thing to do. Anytime we do something out of the ordinary we can feel nervous, excited and a little uncomfortable. When we do something out of the ordinary in the bedroom we create excitement. Think of anything in your life. When you are bored you feel bland and dull. Now think of something exciting in your life. Even if it was putting yourself out there I know it made you feel alive. The bedroom is a place where getting uncomfortable and actually become the best decision you made. I remember the 1st time I did a pretty naughty strip tease for my husband. I was a nervous wreak. I actually drank some alcohol to calm my nerves but all this did was make my dancing a little more tipsy. Still I created excitement and something new in our marriage and still to this day my husband and I can remember that amazing strip tease. Do something new and do something fun. I promise you will be happy did.

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    My name is Cameo .I have been married for 19 years and with my husband for 20.5 years. I know that the sexual connection in a marriage can create strength and happiness and I also know the lack of a sexual connection can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied. Lets get real open and become sexually satisfied in our marriages!

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