Your emotions on PORN!

It is Sunday evening and boy did I have an eventful weekend. I have been doing a lot of research for my upcoming video series, " Why most men love porn ...Understanding and loving your man with no personal attachment or judgment". My husband and I talk very openly about the sexuality of humans as well as our personal sexuality. When my hubby and I first started dating porn was never anything that bothered me. I had 6 brothers and had seen many explicit things in my years of being the only girl and the youngest. Erotic images and pornographic films were something that I myself found very erotic. Then I got married. Marriage changed my views on porn. Not because of all the statistics that state how damaging porn is to the married relationship, my view changed because I felt like my husband was a douche bag! I had created this image in my mind that "My Husband" would be the only man that would be so satisfied with me sexually that he would just stop watching porn. I was perfectly fine hearing that other men watched porn and would even talk to their gals about how it is natural and to not be so hard on their guy BUT when my husband views porn I fire on all cylinders. All these CRAZY emotions get activated and I feel angry, upset, pissed off and super sad all at the same time. WHY???? I am not for or against porn. I know that porn is here to stay and it is only getting bigger and bigger, more accessible and easier for men to turn to. I want to release my personal attachments to the beliefs I have created about my guy watching porn. I want to be in a place that I may not agree with what porn has to represent but I can just see it for what it is and nothing more.

Men do not watch porn because they are unsatisfied with their sex life. There are times that my husband and I are intimate on a daily basis for weeks and he will still watches the occasional porno. We are having amazing sex and he still finds the need to look at erotic images. I have decided to talk openly about this topic because I know there are thousands of women who feel the same. They would like to get to an emotional state where their guy can look at porn and they can feel secure, confident and safe inside their womanhood. Porn can activate every insecurity a woman has and as a woman I want to get to a point where porn causes me no emotions and I create no attachment to it.

I find it funny that at times I am completely fine with porn in my marriage or knowing that my hubby watches it for 5-6 minutes ( which is the average length of time that a person is on a adult website) while he plays a little 5 on 1:) and then there are times that he is just looking at a sexy bodybuilder in a seductive poses and I feel like I just caught him with another woman! I am on a mission to release these emotions and I will share with you all I am learning along the way.

I have found a great analogy to understand men and the internet...here it goes!

Picture this...every morning when you walk into the kitchen there are 100's of gourmet chocolates all for your tasting pleasures. There are chocolate covered almonds, white chocolate dipped strawberries with a swirl of milk chocolate, there are smooth chocolates, dark chocolates anything your chocolate heart desires is there. Could you imagine just walking by and not indulging...just a little. Well this is how our men feel when it comes to porn. Anything their heart desires is there just waiting to please them with NO JUDGMENT! Men are sexual creatures. They have a desire to spread their seed but marriage makes this immoral for most men so what do they do to feed this urge? Watch porn!

Next time your man views porn and you know it. Try to process your emotions and sexual beliefs. Is porn really bad? Does porn harm anything? Is porn something that I want all these negative attachment to?

NOTE: This is for a woman who wants to be okay with her man viewing porn on a occasional basis. A man who watches porn here and there!

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