Utah legislature has passed a sex education bill that allows schools to decide whether they will
teach students about human sexuality and in the event that they do, requires
that it use “abstinence-only instruction materials.” The bill now goes to the
governor for approval.
According to the bill,if a school decides to teach sex
education they must teach it in the context of “abstinence from all sexual activity before marriage and fidelity
after marriage as the only sure methods for preventing certain communicable
diseases.” The bill says that at any time when human sexuality is being taught, instruction is not to include information about “the intricacies of
intercourse, sexual stimulation, or erotic behavior; homosexuality; or [the
advocacy or encouragement of] the use of contraceptive methods or
As a married woman and Mother of 3 I started thinking where have I created My
beliefs and my understanding about sex. I then asked myself would
I want the school system teaching my children about sex and my answer is....
absolutely not. As a woman that is comfortable with communicating openly with my
child this is my answer. This is another reason that we get to feel and be more
comfortable with the topic of sexuality. So where did you learn about sex? My
parents were very closed regarding this subject matter. I learned from having 6
older brothers and watching way to many television programs. Beverly
hills90210, Melroseplace, Days of our lives...I learned a
thing or two from all these. I learned how to use my sexuality to get what I
want. I learned to use my assets so I could gain acceptance and approval from
boys. If we just stick our heads in the sand and hope that our children are
going to make the right decision then we are not living in reality. Reality is
that sex is everywhere. The T.V programs now days are filled with sexual
content. There are whole programs based on sexual content and nothing else.
Jersey Shore, Bad girls club, Pretty little liars, Gossip girls and so many
more. As parents we get to feel more comfortable about speaking on such a
powerful topic. Sex is normal, natural, beautiful, exciting and God-Given. If we
are allowing the school system and television programs to educate our children
then we will have very confused children on our hands. Sex is not bad, naughty,
taboo or unnatural so if we can communicate effectively with our children then
they will have more knowledge and power to create good decisions on their own.
We now get to take some time and understand where are education came from regarding
sex. Sex is not a tool to use so you can fix what is broken, or glue back
together different pieces of yourself so you can feel whole. Sex is not
something you throw around like loose change. Sex is not power. Sex is not
controlling. Sex is wonderful. Sex is amazing. Sex is beautiful. Sex is
enlightening. Sex is emotional. Sex is spiritual. Sex is peaceful. Sex is fun.
Sex is uniting. Sex is never ending. Sex is a spark.
Are your sexual beliefs creating conflict as a spouse?
Are your sexual beliefs creating conflict as a Mother?
Are your sexual beliefs creating conflict as a Father?
Are your sexual beliefs creating conflict as a Spiritual Being having a human experience?
If you answered Yes to any of these then I would suggest you release what is not
serving you and your family. Lets get comfortable with the subject of sex and
how important sex is on our daily life. We can feel the impact of being sexually
confident and sexually satisfied beings. We get to realize that we have the
amazing ability to give ourselves to another with complete honesty, love and
grace. We deserve to be confident. We deserve to be happy. We deserve to be
honest and open.
Be the person you wanted your parents to be when you
wanted security and knowledge when it came to sex. Strong Sexual feelings and a
lack of parental acceptance and guidance is like a time bomb waiting to
explode. Sex is amazing and when we are comfortable with teaching, educating and sharing our beliefs, our values,
our morals and our hopes for our children, they will respond in a way that they
will forever be thankful for. I have a teenage daughter and I am so glad that I
have choose to be open, honest, and forthright with her. It is uncomfortable at
times but I know if I don't teach her someone else will and I don't want that.
She has plenty of outside influence and I want her to have the most powerful
influence inside the home...not outside!