We must take our own Pleasure Seriously!

Here we are, it's 5:30pm on a Thursday evening. Dinner is being prepared and the kids are hanging out with their friends and/ or doing their chores. The thought crosses my mind of "soon my husband will be home and we can connect and get some adult time". Well, adult time is hard to come by when you have children. I could just blow off my desire to spend some one on one time with my husband. He has worked all day and he will be so tired when he gets home. I could just plan to spend time with him another day but those days come and go. This is when it hit me.

​We must take our pleasure seriously!

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​Would it be easier for me to just make dinner and let my husband unwind from working? YES
​Would it be more enjoyable to just go work out while he watches T.V or browses the internet? MAYBE
​Would anyone get hurt or feel sad if we just did our own thing? ABSOLUTELY NOT

​BUT

 I would not be taking my own pleasure seriously if I did any of the above suggestions. I want to hang out with my husband. I want to  have some time where we sit by one another and show up . It is not anything more than taking my own pleasure seriously. I miss my husband. I want to show him love and affection. I enjoy serving him dinner and pouring him a soda. I enjoy these things as they give me pleasure. Who doesn't love to do something for another person? When we are married we get to have a built in person to do amazing things for. It is the universe showing up for us so we can give and receive.  I want to have the most amazing marriage. I want to feel passionate. I want to feel the purpose inside our love. I want to feel the deepest pleasure I can feel. The only way I am going to feel all these amazing things is by committing to my own pleasure. I am not doing these things to please my husband. I know it will, which is a beautiful bonus, but I am doing these things to allow my pleasure center to expand. 

​As women we can easily become attached to the idea that our husband is just someone else who needs something from us. We can feel as though we are invisible and just there to clean the house and make the dinner. We can feel disconnected, confused and completely lost inside our own marriage. This happens when we are not thinking about our own pleasure.

​What can you do today to give yourself more pleasure inside your marriage?
How can you create more of a connection to yourself and your man?
​Why are you inside this marriage and how can it grow and flourish into the beautiful relationship it is designed to be?
​When are you going to stand up and know that your own pleasure is yours for the creating?

Choose today to take your own pleasure seriously.
​Choose today to show up inside your powerful feminine essence and allow your marriage to expand and flow.
Choose your own pleasure today.
​Choose your own love story and co create it with your man.
​Be the star of your marriage show.

​Today decide different ways that you can receive and give more pleasure inside your marriage. It is so important. We are not sitting on the sidelines waiting for someone else to create the marriage of our dreams.  We are the writers of our own story. The stars of our own show. The lovers in our own romance novel. We are the ones who get to wake up every day and ask....How can I receive and give more pleasure inside of my marriage?

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