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6/22/2012

Turn your lover into a Hot Fudge Sundae

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Have sex for yourself. Today I suggest that you become focused on yourself. Find three reasons that you want to be intimate with your spouse and indulge. I talk about serving in the bedroom. I believe service is important in a marriage and thinking about the other person is extremly valuable. I do want us all to remember that we are valuable as well. Loving ourselves and having sex for our enjoyment is a great thing. Today do something in the bedroom that creates a feeling of enjoyment and fulfillment. Today talk to yourself and ask these questions....
  1. Do I enjoy being intimate with my spouse?
If the answer is yes then dig deeper and ask why you enjoy being intimate. Come up with two things. If the answer is no then I suggest you use the Byron Katie Method. Ask yourself, Is this true? Can I know for sure that I do not like being intimate with my spouse?  Then ask yourself if you can absolutely know that its true? Then ask how do you react when you believe that thought? Then ask who would you be without the thought? Then turn it around and ask ... Do I enjoy being intimate with myself.  I am not talking about masturbation. I am talking about truly loving yourself from the inside. Who you are in this exact moment.

2. What do I like in the bedroom?
When we take a look at ourselves then we can discover so many wonderful things that we have to offer ourselves and our lover. Ask youself what you like in the bedroom? Do you like to be in control? Do you like to be taken in your lovers arms while he ravishes you all night? Do you like to tie your husband up so he can not touch you and you can do all the pleasing and teasing? Would you like to turn your lover into a hot fudge sundae that you can't wait to devour? Find one thing that you like in the bedroom and create the scene. You will fill great and so will your lover

3. Am I safe?
Here is a beilef that I know many women experience in the bedroom. When we are feeling unsafe enjoyment is the last emotion we will experience. We can choose to create a new belief to replace this unsafe feeling. Start speaking positive affirmations to yourself. Say this ... I am safe...I am safe...I am safe. Say this...I am whole and complete...I am whole and complete...I am whole and complete. Say this...I love being sexually intimate and receiving pleasure...I love being sexually intimate and receiving pleasure...I love being sexually intimate and receiving pleasure. Start thinking healthy thoughts about yourself and your sexuality. Sex is an amazing connection that we get to experience and as we release emotions and beliefs that keep us stuck in an unsatisfied sex life then we can flourish and live in our own sexual power.

For more information on Byron Katie her website is www.thework.com

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Kirk F Bird
7/12/2012 11:29:31 am

Food for thought and our enjoyment! Dont be embarrassed or ashamed of things that our introduced into your marriage, but use the experience to enhance the passion and love in your marriage. Heres the thought = Should we criticize the act in which a couple shares their passion, or relish in the eroticism we shared with our Partner / Husband or Wife ?

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Sexless Marriage
7/19/2012 03:50:10 am

Love this comment...the bedroom should be the safest most erotic place to open up and share ourselves. We tend to censor ourselves and this leaves us longing for the openess we so deserve

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