I became a Mother at the age of 20. I have been in some type of Mommy mode most of my adult life.
Mommy mode is one of my favorite modes. I found that it can be such a fun mode that I have a hard time switching gears and turning it off. I am always a Mother. No matter where my children are and no matter how old they become I will forever be a Mother.
Being a Mother is amazing but we get to remember that we are women as well. Sexual, vibrant, fun loving, outgoing, excited about life women. We get to remember that we have a husband who loves and adores us and he will love and adore us even more when we can be more open with our sexual energy.
This last week we had no children in the house. The two younger ones went to Grandma and Grandpas for the week and our oldest one is off at college. My husband worked all week and I decided to work right along side of him, helping him and just being with him.
When we would get home I wanted to try a few things for myself to see how I would feel.
One night I wanted to be topless and see how comfortable I felt as well as being topless in front of my husband. Wow, this was really challenging at first. So many thoughts and beliefs came up and I felt insecure and unsure. How many of us can say that we walk around the house topless? In fact can you look back on your life and remember walking around topless at all, ever? I know that I have had many experiences in my life but I have never been topless for hours. This is really a very eye opening experience. Try it. I know that we all don't have the ability to send the kids to grandmas for a week but there is some way that you can create this environment so you can have this experience. Being vulnerable and being seen is scary but also extremely liberating. If just the thought of doing this creates uncomfortable feelings then start off brushing your teeth topless, doing your hair topless, or if no one is home walk around for a bit topless. We must get comfortable inside our bodies as well as getting comfortable showing our bodies to our husbands. Men are very visual. They like seeing. This may take a some time but we deserve to embrace our bodies and become comfortable expressing our feminine nature.
Another night I walked around the house in just a tank top and my undies. I felt more comfortable with this experiment because I feel very confident with my lower body. I have always loved my legs and my butt is finally starting to pop out a bit so this experiment was a little less intimidating. I still felt some uncomfortable feelings at first because clothing is a big part of our lives, right? We very rarely walk around the house in our panties but I want to feel comfortable inside my body as well as comfortable using my body to attract the eyes and attention of my husband sexually. I know he loves me and looks at me sexually even when I am fully clothed but I want to master the art of seduction and this was a step in that direction.
Decide today to do something new and something sexual. We want our sexual energy to expand inside of our marriage not shrink.
We all want to have amazing sex. This is something that takes time, commitment, dedication and the willingness to get outside of our comfort zones.
Sexual energy is our creative energy. Don't be afraid to try new things. Some of these things will be fun and exciting and some of these things will bring up some emotional pain and resistance.
Deciding to have an amazing sex life is the best thing you can do for yourself emotionally. It will awaken you to the depths of your core and allow you to process beliefs, feelings and emotions that you didn't even realize are there.
Try something new