Do you ever feel like your sexual side has went into hiding and is so scared and frightened that it will lie dormant for the rest of your life. I am not talking about just having sex. Sex is a very intimate action but if you don't feel comfortable and confident being sexual then sex itself will feel just okay! No one and I mean no one wants to have just okay sex! We want to focus on getting very comfortable with our sexuality and then getting even more comfortable expressing this side of ourselves. With all the daily tasks that a woman can take on, her sexuality may be the first thing that she dims. As women we are bright, creative, loving and yes sexual beings. We are this bright light and when we get so many things burning all at once the sexual self seems like the logical thing to shut off but its not! I have been in a place with young kids, working full time, being a mother at night and then wanting so badly to connect in a positive, healthy, fun loving way with my husband but unable to. I had lost my sexual self. I had placed her in a box and put her in the very back of the closet. My husband was so sweet and supportive but he to was dying inside. Men want appreciation, acceptance, understanding, and SEX. Men want the other emotions that women want. They want to feel approval from their spouse that they are good enough. Men want to feel appreciation for taking care of all the things men take care of. Men want to be understood and loved and men truly desire for their woman to want them sexually.
Dig that box out from the back of the closet and open her up. Your sexual self is one of the most exciting parts of who you are. You have decided to spend the rest of your life with this amazing man and both of you deserve to have an out of this world sexual connection. Creating this connection is so much fun and at times can also be painful( if you have attached shame, guilt, or have repressed emotions about sex) but even the pain deserve to be felt and then released.
Remember when you and your hubby first started having an intimate relationship? I am not talking just about having sex I am talking about the little playful moments in your dating experience. Remember thinking about what you was going to wear, how your were going to do your hair, the excitement, the anticipation, the longing to be with one another. After years of marriage you can still create this emotion. It will no longer just come naturally as we can get into daily habits and this can take that spark out of our married relationship.
Relax into your sexuality. Relax into being playful with your hubby. Don't be such a...prude! As a mother this can really become a problem. We become stuck in mommy mood and don't give our hubby the attention he deserves and so desperately wants. When you become playful you can create little moments that always make your husband feel wanted, desired and longed for.
Here are a few examples of your to be playful throughout the day with a sexual spark!
1. There is always a moment where your husband is looking your way and no one else is around...take a quick moment to flash him some part of your sexy body! You will for sure have his attention
2. Kiss your husband in a seductive way. Go up behind him and kiss his neck, then slowly run your hand down his luscious body ending with the package he is so proud of. Give this a nice feel and smile at your hubby. He will feel like a stud for the rest of the day.
3. Get comfortable touching yourself. I am not talking about masturbating. I am talking about being able to caress yourself in a way that activates your husbands sexual desire. When your hubby looks over at you slowly run your hand softly down your breast and look at him with lustful eyes. Or run your hand up your thigh and stop at the highest part of the inner thigh.
4. Get comfortable with sexual postures. Remember when you would drop something and practice picking it up in an enticing way( Maybe you never did this... I did). If you did not do this then start. Bend over in a sexual way. Arch your back, stick out your chest and bend at the waist pushing your butt out as far as you can. Practice being seductive. The more you practice the more confident you will become in expressing your sexual being.
Marriage is awesome. Awesomeness only happens with constant effort. Becoming comfortable with your sexual self is something you deserve! Our husbands love sex. We should love sex. If we both love sex then our relationship can flourish as we are both fulfilling each others desires.