Take the desperation out of your marriage I speak to women everyday and I hear over and over again " I couldn't live without my husband". I ask them to rethink that statement. We should be married to our spouse out of choice not desperation. Marriage is beautiful and amazing but at times, it is also difficult and a challenge. When we are coming from a place of choice and love rather then desperation and force then marriage is easier. When I look at my husband I know that I am with him because he is my best friend. The one person I can tell and share everything with...and yes I mean everything. I love my husband so much but I do not need him. I choose him. I can live without him but I choose not to. I can support my family without him but I choose not to. I can feel secure being by myself but I choose not to I choose him. I choose to have Jeff by my side. When we change our perception of marriage it will change how we feel about our sexuality as well. When we know we are choosing this person for all the greatness we can share then sex will be something that we are choosing as well. We are choosing to share ourselves sexually it is not out of force or desperation because we need our husbands to love us. When we love ourselves and look inward instead of outward we will find the love and passion we are searching for and this love and passion will come from ourselves not our spouse. Remember all the things that assisted you in falling in love with your spouse and fall in love with those things all over again. Love them for who they are and what they bring to the relationship not for approval and validation. You do not need your spouse... you have choose them to be part of your life. The only person that you require love, approval and validation from is yourself. Remind yourself everyday how special you are. Talk to yourself in a happy and health way and start expanding your security within.
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Diane
7/9/2012 07:01:10 am
That's a great anwser.. I am just going threw all of this now and I am realizing that no relationship should never be about need it should be about love and what you share!
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Cameo
7/9/2012 09:36:05 am
Diane, I love your insight thank you for sharing!
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