Sex...Can we enjoy intimacy during menstruation?

 

 

When Jeff and I were first together my cycle was a challenge that presented itself in a fun way every month and we always found ways to still connect on an intimate level. My cycle was an obstacle to get around so we could still enjoy each others nakedness.  After 12 years together I have created this monster that comes with my cycle. It is no longer a fun obstacle but a scary monster that my husband should stay far, far away from. I have created this. In my mind I am not feeling sexy. I am feeling crampy, bloated, tired, emotional and I could cry or flip out at any moment. I have changed my perception about my cycle. I have decided it is something awful and disgusting instead of the beautiful cycle of life that it really is. Our menstrual cycle is there so we have the ability to create life. What an amazing gift. As we are consistently looking for new ways to connect on an intimate level this can be a great way. This month I choose to share myself with my husband while menstruating. I made sure I showered and then laid a large towel down. I made sure that it was dark so we both felt comfortable as it is not a beautiful scene BUT I did find that sex was more intense during my cycle. I believe the hormones that are getting released while on your cycle can really make sex more enjoyable then it already is. If you have slow movements and you are on the bottom then there is not that big of a mess. While on your cycle it creates a natural lubricant that is very enjoyable and as a woman it makes me feel that my husband loves and enjoys me even when I am menstruating. I am not off limits. I am not disgusting. I am not shut down. I am a beautiful, mature, loving, amazing woman and wife who wants to connect sexually all the time. I suggest that you try this just once. If both of you consent and want to move forward I believe that sex during your cycle may be something you both really enjoy. You may try it and neither one of you will like it or maybe one will and one won't. I am not saying that it will be perfect but I am saying in marriage open up to your spouse and see if you like it or you don't. We have all heard that you don't judge a book by its cover...so lets not create a scenario in our mind unless we have tried it at least once. You may find that being intimate will lessen your bleeding, lessen your cramps and shorten your period. This happens by the uterine contractions that take place while being intimate. Lets remember how wonderful and beautiful we all our even when we are menstruating. Our cycle gives us the gift of housing another little soul inside our precious body. Our cycle is wonderful and as woman we get to remember how amazing we all are. 

 


  

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