What is the first thing that you think of when you hear the word sex?
Is the first thing you think of a positive image or is it a negative image?
Sex is all about perception. How are you perceiving yourself? How are you perceiving your Spouse?
How are you feeling when it comes to the sense of touch? Do you enjoy being touched? Do you enjoy touching your spouse?
How are you feeling when it comes to the sense of sight? Do you like to be seen? Do you enjoy looking at your spouse?
How do you feel when it comes to the sense of taste? Do you like the flavor of yourself? Do you like the flavor of your spouse?
How do you feel when it comes to the sense of hearing? Do you like to hear yourself speak? Do you like to hear your spouse speak.
How do you feel when it comes to the sense of smell? Do you like how you smell? Do you like how your spouse smells?
I ask these question as all 5 senses are activated and highly engaged when we are having sex. Sex awakens every part of who we are. It activates our humanness at a core level.
How we perceive ourselves and how we perceive our spouse is very important when we are wanting a sexual outcome of connection, happiness, excitement, and pleasure. All 5 senses are alive and kicking when we are sharing our sexual essence with our spouse.
Take time and rub each other. Take time and lick, kiss and taste each other. Take time and breath in each others sensual aromas. Take time and speak softly to your spouse. Take time and really look at each others nakedness. We must be vulnerable in order to receive and give pleasure. We deserve to put effort into showing up in a spectacular way when it comes to the bedroom.
Sex is amazing and it does require effort on both parts. To have an amazing sexual connection you must have an amazing connection to who you are as a sexual being. Pay attention. Show up fully. Show up openly. Show up in the most expressive way . The bedroom is a place that is truly healing. Sex awakens us to our full spectrum of emotions. Breath into these emotions. Feel all 5 senses. Awaken to the fact that sex can be everything we want it to be. We must be constantly learning. Constantly trying new things. Constantly having open discussion about our sexual wants and desires. Stop being shy. If you want amazing sex ...then go get it. It takes time. It takes effort. It takes patience. It takes trusting yourself. It takes trusting your spouse.
I feel as thou we think sex should be simple and if it is not simple then we immediately label it as another problem in our life and it is an easy problem to ignore.
Sex awakens us at our deepest, core level. Sex is not painful in itself but the emotions it awakens can feel like a knife to the heart and soul. When we decide to stay in the pain until the pain releases and turns to pleasure then we will have an awakening of sexual enlightenment.
Reach out to me so we can tap into some of these emotions that are trapped and release them. Trapped emotions are a key part in keeping us feeling disconnected to our sexual self and our sexual partner. I promise you will be so happy that you released the emotions that are keeping you stuck from feeling the full pleasure of being sexually satisfied!