There is no way that we can receive the beautiful, divine, yummy sensations of completely surrendering if we are in our head when we are in bed and all we are doing is thinking, thinking, thinking. Thinking thoughts such as
- I hope he likes what I am doing
- I wonder if I forgot to turn off the burner
- I think this lighting is to bright and I know I look horrible
- I know that I look chubby in this position
- Why can't I stop thinking
- I shouldn't have ate the third cookie...damn it
- I hope he is enjoying himself
- I wonder if I am making to many noises
- Can the kids hear what we are doing in here
- And so on and so on
The brain is a powerful tool when it comes to women and how we can get turned on. I literally can bring the sensation of orgasm to me by just thinking super yummy delicious sensual thoughts. Our brains can accompany us to the bedroom but they need to be dialed into our pleasure center thoughts.
When we use our brain to connect us to our divine feminine essence and show up in the space of how can I receive and feel more pleasure, more sensation, more yumminess then we are using the most powerful tool we have in the most rewarding way possible. We all want to receive more pleasure. We all want to feel more sensation. We all want to feel yummy in the bedroom. We must start using our brain wisely.
Allow your brain to connect to your vagina. When we allow these two powerhouse operating centers to connect then magic happens. Use your brain to ask your vagina, does this feel delicious? Do you enjoy this movement or do you prefer this other movement? Do you like slow, deep, circle your hips on top of him penetration or do you prefer fast quick in and out movements when it comes to penetration? Do you enjoy being on top and seducing your man with your sexy feminine body or do you prefer to be on bottom where you feel more relaxed and beautiful? Do you love controlling the pace of your sexual experience or do you prefer your man be the dominate one? Do you like slow, deep kisses or do you like small nibbles on the neck and a bit of playful teasing?
We all know that we have a clitoral pleasure center and she enjoys being the center of attention. The clitoris is there for one reason and one reason only....PLEASURE! She is the superstar of the show but the vagina can be a superstar as well. The vagina can really activate a deep, yummy, shake you to your core orgasm. The outside of the pussy is beautiful but the inside, the vagina, can really awaken us to the yumminess we all know we want to experience. Allow your brain to connect to your vagina. Ask her what she wants and what type of penetration she likes. If she doesn't know then start experimenting. You can use a toy if you feel called or you can tell your man that you are going to use him as your toy. I promise he will light up and be more then happy to be part of your magical vagina research.
We are divine feminine, beautiful, sensual powerhouses of pleasure. It is our birthright and we owe it to ourselves to experience all the yumminess the bedroom can bring. We must commit to leaning into the pain because we know that pleasure is right behind the door. When we have never really addressed or connected to our vagina, there will be some painful feelings there. Just go slow and take your time. She is wanting to open up and trust that you will not disown her again but trust takes time. Love her. Cuddle her. Speak soft words to her. Let her know that you are committed to her pleasure and you will listen to her wants and her desires. Promise her that she will be felt deeply and expressed wholly. Thank her for sitting there quietly waiting for you to remember.
Fall in love with the brain, vagina connection. I promise you it will be worth the journey. It won't happen over night but with time you will experience the most amazing vaginal awakening and you will be full of light, love and happiness!