The divorce rate in America is more
than 50%, which means one in two married couples will call it quits. Why it is
so high? What is the real reason for divorce?
As I read this question I started thinking
about the powerful love we all feel when we first start dating our soon to be spouse. This love is more of an obsession. An altered state of reality that releases chemicals in our brain that gives us a feeling of security, love and happiness. In this state of the relationship we do not have to work at anything.
We see only the good in one another and everything comes super easy. We are
experiencing a state of bliss that triggers a euphoric feeling. We serve to make
each other feel good and to show our love. We cuddle, we caress, we buy great
gifts for one another. We give space for each person to have their own interests
and hobbies with love and support. We do all these things in the lust, obsession stage. We do all these things to conquer or capture. Then we get married and it is usually great for a
while but then we put all these amazing things that we use to do for one another
aside and start looking at all the negative things that our spouse brings into
the relationship. We shift our perception to what he or she is not doing. We
start looking for all the annoying habits, all the reasons why I am not happy,
all the reasons it is our spouses fault. In a marriage we are committing to
serve, love and share ourselves. We are committing to create value in the home
and create value in the marriage. We are committing to put our spouse first. We
are committing that we will honor one another. We are committing that we will be
a witness for our spouse. We are committing that we will find a way in the hard
times to show one another we still love and care for them. The woman does not
give herself enough credit for the love and gentleness she can bring into a
marriage. You can be a superstar out in the work force but remember to return to
your loving, soft and gentle nature in your home. I know we live in a have it
all society and when things get tough most people check out. The man and woman
relationship is complex and it is not going to be smooth sailing with no waves
or even hurricanes but if you can find greatness in your spouse even in the
times of turmoil then marriage will be just what it is meant to
be.....passionate, loving, caring and
forever!
than 50%, which means one in two married couples will call it quits. Why it is
so high? What is the real reason for divorce?
As I read this question I started thinking
about the powerful love we all feel when we first start dating our soon to be spouse. This love is more of an obsession. An altered state of reality that releases chemicals in our brain that gives us a feeling of security, love and happiness. In this state of the relationship we do not have to work at anything.
We see only the good in one another and everything comes super easy. We are
experiencing a state of bliss that triggers a euphoric feeling. We serve to make
each other feel good and to show our love. We cuddle, we caress, we buy great
gifts for one another. We give space for each person to have their own interests
and hobbies with love and support. We do all these things in the lust, obsession stage. We do all these things to conquer or capture. Then we get married and it is usually great for a
while but then we put all these amazing things that we use to do for one another
aside and start looking at all the negative things that our spouse brings into
the relationship. We shift our perception to what he or she is not doing. We
start looking for all the annoying habits, all the reasons why I am not happy,
all the reasons it is our spouses fault. In a marriage we are committing to
serve, love and share ourselves. We are committing to create value in the home
and create value in the marriage. We are committing to put our spouse first. We
are committing that we will honor one another. We are committing that we will be
a witness for our spouse. We are committing that we will find a way in the hard
times to show one another we still love and care for them. The woman does not
give herself enough credit for the love and gentleness she can bring into a
marriage. You can be a superstar out in the work force but remember to return to
your loving, soft and gentle nature in your home. I know we live in a have it
all society and when things get tough most people check out. The man and woman
relationship is complex and it is not going to be smooth sailing with no waves
or even hurricanes but if you can find greatness in your spouse even in the
times of turmoil then marriage will be just what it is meant to
be.....passionate, loving, caring and
forever!
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