We live in a society that we are taught that girls are either Good
or Bad. We are in one category or the other
and usually we wanted to be bad just to make our parents angry. I feel most girls wanted to be considered good.
They tried very hard to make the right decision and to wear the proper clothing...nothing to risqué or revealing. We are taught that we do not want to send the wrong message by acting, looking and dressing properly we will be placed in the good girl category. Here is one problem that gets created in this moment of good girl vs. bad girl. Do good girls have great, uninhibited sex when they are married...probably not. The belief is still embedded in our brain that Good girls would not behave in this way. I am a good girl so the only way we can have sex is this one way so that I can continue to hold onto this belief that I am good. Good girls are usually very confused in the bedroom because sex feels good but the good girl has been conditioned that sex is naughty and the only girls that did those kind of things to a boy are girls that are considered troubled.
Girls that were sexually promiscuous had many issues and she was just using her body to get what she wanted from a boy or man. So here lies the underlining issue.
If we have a belief that Bad girls use sex to get what they want
from a man and good girl have sex just to be a good wife then we will
always feel so confused and part of us will always wish that we are on the
bad side of the fence. Well here is an announcement...YOU ARE MARRIED NOW AND HAVE PERMISSION TO BE AS BAD AS YOU WANT IN THE BEDROOM~ Now is the time that you can act out all those wild fantasies that you have and had being a good girl.
Good girls can have great sex. The kind of sex that you lose yourself
in one another, your bodies become one and your sense of smell, taste and
touch are heightened so that you can truly enjoy the sensations from each
other. If you have felt sex has to be un enjoyable and that you are
having sex just to please your husband and be a good wife then you are
missing out on so much pleasure in your marriage. As women we have a sex
drive and sexual thoughts and fantasies just like men, we just hide it
better. Start enjoying the sexual woman that you are. You have the right to
connect to your sexual self and to your husband so that you both can
experience a connection that God wants us to experience. When we are
sexually dissatisfied then tension, problems and faults are always the
things that are being focused on in marriage. We focus on the
bills, thekids, the dog, our religious groups and we place our sexual
connection to our spouse on the back burner. We tell ourselves that it can wait and sex is not that important now. I am here to tell you that you are absolutely mistaken.
Sex will strengthen your bond as a man and wife. Sex will create love,
passion, communication, acceptance, truth and honesty. Sex is the
foundation of a marriage as now you have one person that you can sexually
bond with for the rest of your life. Sex should be something that you focus
on as much as you focus on creating an income. Sex is life sustaining in a
marriage...so let your bad girl out of her cage, Good girls as now you have
legal permission to get wild, crazy and experience pure sexual