Feeling sexually disconnected in our marriage is
inevitable. Even when we are extremely focused on strengthening the
intimate part of our marriage. Sexual ups and downs are going to happen. This is ok.
It is perfectly normal so do not get discouraged. When we are feeling
disconnected in the bedroom, take a step back and find out where else we are
feeling disconnected. Many of our emotions in our daily life can drift over and
affect our feelings sexually. Is work stressing you out? Are the children
sucking all the energy from you? Are you feeling uncomfortable with your body?
Are you stressed out over money?
RELAX. All these obstacles can be overcome. Take some
time for yourself. Get out in the sunshine, go for a walk, read a good book,
start your own business and relax into your life. Stress is a big killer of
intimacy in the bedroom. Release the daily pressures by writing in a journal,
talking to someone you respect, sharing your feelings with your spouse or just
close your eyes and take a few deep breathes and release the pressure of stress.
Learn to love the process of life and learn to love the process of building a
greater sexual connection with your spouse. Sex is also a great stress reliever.
If you are feeling extremely stressed out you can release and express this
emotion through sex. Rough sex can and will be very liberating and you will feel
better...everything is better after you have an intense session of sex with
your spouse and even better if you have an intense orgasm as well. Release the
stress and keep focusing on building a stronger sexual connection.