Don't try to change one another...just love one another

Don't try to change one another...just love one
another


  


 
 




In Marriage it is so easy for couples to start wanting
the other person to change. We start feeling and thinking things that are not
  emotionally supportive for a healthy marriage. When we start thinking things
  that support destruction and disconnection then the gap becomes larger and
  larger between the two of us and then before we know it we feel as thou we
  would be happier alone or with someone else. I know what I am talking about as
  I use to be a wife that did this. I use to think things like... life would be
  easier on my own Or I would think... I wish my husband made more money or at
  times I would feel and think that my husband and I had very little in common.
  When I was feeling and thinking these kind of thought these are the things I
  started experiencing in my marriage. I started feeling disconnected and alone
  in my marriage. About a year ago I was speaking to a friend of mine and I was
  voicing these thoughts and feelings to her. She then stated to me, " if you
keep stating these things then those will be the things you experience in your
marriage". I never wanted to be one of those wives that dominated, demand and
acted needy of her husband. I realized after this conversation that I had taken
a few steps in the wrong direction. After that conversation I now think and feel
beautiful thoughts about my husband and my marriage. I think things like... My
life would not be easier without my husband because I am choosing to love him
not needing to. I do not care what type of income my husband brings home as he
loves, supports and gives 100% to this family. I love that I have realized with
positive thoughts and positive feelings I can create the marriage we both
deserve. I know that I am living with the man that loves me, cares for me and
says things to me that brighten my soul. Yesterday I heard amazing words that no
physical gift could ever give me. The words were..." I know that I could live
without you BUT I would never want too. You are the person I want to experience
this world with". I love hearing words that show me he is wanting to be here not
having to be here. Start focusing on all the positive aspects and all the
positive things you and your spouse have created together. Focus on love and
happiness. Focus on strengthening your marriage one thought at a time!!!  

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