Create Sexual Spontaneity!

Model: Tara Lynn

Boredom in the bedroom is a sure way to feel disconnected. We all have that inner sexual diva that wants to try wild things and express our sexual self in an open and confident way. When is the last time you have done something new, exciting, different and out of the box? When is the last time you have sat down and had a conscious thought about your sexual plans for the night, weekend or a special occasion. Sex is something that can become boring unless you are putting constant thought into your sexual wants, desires and cravings. I am not saying that you have to be thinking about sex every minute of every day but sexual thought will assist you in creating sexual expressions that awaken both you and your man. If you are waiting for your man to plan all these wonderful ways to express his sexual wants and desires for you in a creative way...you may be waiting a long time. Men love sex and thou some men are very creative they may not be super creative in the bedroom! Sexual expression is something we deserve to get very comfortable with. Sexual expression creates excitement back into the bedroom. After 13 years with my hubby I can still get butterflies in my belly when I have planned something a little wild and out of my sexual comfort box!  I myself hate to be bored and anything can become boring when it is the same thing night after night. Here are a few ideas of how you can create some sexual spontaneity in and out of the bedroom!

1. Dress up...Find a sexy piece of club wear and put together a sexy candle light dinner for you and your man. Get your hair done, put on flattering make up, shave your legs, lotion your body, and then slip into that sexy little number that you have personal picked out. Make sure it is a piece you feel erotic in. Don't pick a piece that makes you feel self conscious. Pick a piece that you feel sexy in but also will make your man feel like you are wearing it for his viewing pleasure. Then play the part ladies. I love this. I love playing the part of a woman who so badly wants her man to notice every inch of her curvious body. Act like you just landed the lead role in Basic Instinct and seductively seduce your man!

2. Dance...Every man wants a private erotic strip tease for his own viewing pleasure and it is even more enticing when he knows he gets to fuck you at the end of this amazing show. Be seductive, move slowly and allow your hands to move all over your body in the way you would want your lovers hands to move all over your body. Close your eyes and allow your inner dancing vixen to be explored. You will feel empowered and your man will feel excited.

3. Take pictures...With the invention of digital cameras this can be a super fun one with no risk. Most cameras have self timers on them so you can take all the sensual pictures you want and then allow your man the opportunity to see you expressing your sexiness. I love this one. I feel a little uncomfortable with my husband taking the pictures but with the ability to put my camera on a tripod and take all the pictures I want with no one else in the room is truly liberating. You will find a part of yourself that says " DAMN...I am super hot"! Keep the pictures you want and erase the ones that you don't. Then surprise him with a slideshow or just let him scan through the pictures on the camera, then when the evening is over...hit the delete button and the evidence has vanished! What a beautiful invention! Love the digital camera. You can also take pictures of each other, this is a fun way to connect and create an intimate moment...warning there can be laughter involved when taking pictures together but in a good way not an embarrassing way! 

There are so many things you can do but make sure you are doing something new on a regular basis! This will keep the excitement alive and also awaken your own sexual diva. Woman love sex but we are super creative creatures as well so what is more perfect then creating new ways to express our sexuality! 

Do something new in the next 5 days! 

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