Have you ever been deeply hurt ?
Have you ever experienced emotional trauma?
Have you ever seen something that changed your earthly life forever?
Have you witnessed or experienced intense sexual pain?
I ask you these questions because these experiences will show up in the bedroom.
For years I completely numbed myself from feeling pleasure. The first few years of my life were the scariest years of my life. My mother, who I love and forgive, was married to an abusive alcoholic. There was constant fighting and intense physical abuse in our home. These are the years that we discover our sense of self. What I discovered in these moments forever changed my life.
I am now 39 and some of these emotions still arise. If the first man in our life was a man that completely terrified us then it is really hard to allow ourselves to be vulnerable with any man. We can be kind of vulnerable but we never will fully allow our guard to be released until we allow ourselves to trust again.
Here are 3 steps we can take to break down the guarded gate and start receiving the pleasure we deserve.
Sex in marriage is what you make of it. You can choose to shut down and close shop or you can choose to feel through the pain and get to the pleasure. We must feel all our emotions so we can experience the pleasure that is our birthright. Start your journey today.
Reach out to me as I love working with people on their healing journey.