Do you ever feel conflicted when it comes to who you are in your daily life and who you so badly want to be in the bedroom? As women of the 21st Century we are pulled in so many different directions. Most are Mothers, employees, bakers, organizers, cleaners, helpers, and so much more. Most of what women do on a daily basis can and will suck the sexy right from us if we allow it to. We as women deserve to choose sexiness. We deserve to feel empowered in the bedroom. We deserve to feel like the goddesses we are. I have noticed since becoming a mother that my sexy feeling can shut down pretty quickly if I allow it to. When I am feeling motherly I always felt like sexiness could not be part of the emotional state of mommyhood. When I was reading to my kids, changing their diapers, baking cookies with them or sitting down and having a conversations with them I would shut down my sexy. When we shut down our sexy it can be very challenging to turn her back on.
So when we are reading to the children we can still be in a sexy space. Sexiness is a state of mind. When we are baking with our kids we can still be in a sexy state of mind. When we are changing diapers we can still be in a sexy state of mind all though this one might be a bit more challenging but still possible. If we are not using the most powerful tool we have...our minds to keep our sexiness activated then it can take a lot to get the fire burning again.
When we are out gardening we can be in a sexy minded state. Just today I was out pulling weeds and when my husband pulled into the driveway he was very interested in me sexually...Not because I looked like a perfect 10 but he could feel my sexy minded energy. Sexiness is the way we feel about ourselves and allowing ourselves to have sexy thoughts. I love looking at my husband with thoughts of desire and lust. I love brushing up against him in an ever so slightly erotic way that only him and I know what is being created in this small but powerful moment. I love thinking sexy, I love being sexy, I love feeling sexy and most of all I love the way my husband receives my sexy energy.
So we as women can be a lady all through out the day. We can do all the things we do on a daily basis but now we can add this sexy energy. This sexy state of mind that only you know you are using the power of your sexual creative energy to allow yourself to fully express who you are in the beauty of your everyday life.
When we are in this sexy energy we feel ready to be sexual in a moments notice. We no longer require wining and dining...these things are nice but not required. When we are using the power of our sexy energy to feel sexy all through out the day then we can feel aroused just by a soft stare that last for a few seconds, or a masculine hand brushing up and down your back. These small moments can create erotic feelings and when erotic feeling are created it is so much easier to want to share ourselves sexually.
Commit for one week to think sexy thoughts all throughout the day. See and feel your energy shift when it comes to your sexual readiness and willingness. Men can do things to make us feel sexy all throughout the day but I prefer to allow myself to determine how sexy I am feeling and how powerful my sexual energy is.
Do this for one week and feel your sexual energy expand. Don't worry it will never expand beyond your comfort level!
Our vagina is absolutely amazing. She has a whole bag of tricks. She can be tight, hot and on fire or she can be relaxed, tired and ready for bed . She can be completely dry like the Sahara Desert or she can be as wet as the blue pacific ocean! She can be as quiet as a mouse or loud and up front. Our vagina has many different personalities and we deserve to love and embrace every damn one of them. Our vagina deserves to be respected and admired. She deserves self love and self care. She deserve to be cherished and caressed! Our vagina deserve the pleasure she so longs for. So what is this pleasure?
It can be anything she is in the mood for. Our vagina will receive pleasure from anything we choose as long as it is coming from a relaxed and loving place. Our vagina will receive the most amazing, out of this world pleasure if she can stay in a relaxed state. When we allow our vagina to become so tense and full of tight energy then we will receive short, intense, tight orgasms. When we allow our vagina to be open, flowing, allowing and full of releasing energy then this is exactly the type of orgasm she will receive. Long, head to toe, mind relaxing orgasms. A whole body orgasm that last for what seems like hours. When we can relax the vagina then we can relax our whole body and mind.
Our vagina is made for pleasure....not just the clitoris although this is made for pure pleasure, our vagina is made for pleasure as well. If we are so tense and constricted when our husband tries to enter us then the sex will feel very tense and constricted. If we are relaxed and peaceful then when our husband tries to enter us we will receive burst of beautiful orgasmic energy and the more relaxed we can be the better these orgasmic energies are.
Next time you have sex, fuck or make love relax your vagina, relax your mind and relax your body. I promise you will feel completely transformed as a sexual being. You will feel connected, you will feel sensational and you will feel like you have finally reached the land of sexual satisfaction.
Relax and love your vagina ...she deserves it!
Okay ladies, lets get real honest here. When it comes to our sexuality there is no right and wrong, good or bad, black or white, wholesome or trampy. Even if we were taught to wait until we get married to explore our sexuality then we can all scream with excitement because now we are married.
For years I have been on this road to sexual self discovery. I am still traveling down the road but I feel like I have a good solid map and know exactly where my destination is.
SEX IS NOT BLACK OR WHITE
When it comes to Mrs. Vagina she can be all about right or wrong and good or bad. She can quickly shift through and sort through many emotions and many actions and then determine if this is a good and acceptable emotion or if this is an unacceptable emotion and she should feel bad for even having the thought.
When I lived by this rule in my marriage I was slowly dying inside. I wanted to get so fucking wild in bed but my good girl side would say " that is unacceptable".I wanted to explore my sexuality with my husband but my good girl would say "just do your wifely duty and it will be fine". I wanted to feel orgasmic in bed, not just a little orgasmic I wanted to experience what it felt like to completely surrender. To be so engulfed in the sexual expression of mine and my husbands love for each other that I lost myself totally in this beautiful, amazing mind blowing sex but my good girl side would say "just be happy with having an orgasm". I wanted to suck my husbands dick in the way that he only dreamed of but my good girl side would say " just go up and down in a steady motion and he will enjoy it".
So my good girl and I came head to head. I listened to her feelings and understood how she felt and she listened to my feelings of wanting to explore more and express my true sexual nature. We fought back and forth for years and finally we have came to an agreement. WE BOTH WIN!
I can have amazing sensual, soft , sexy sex and be perfectly happy in this space. I can have a mind blowing fuck session where my husband is able to express his sexual dominance and I can be perfectly happy in this space. I can have a 5 minute quickie and feel happy in that space or my husband and I can express our passion towards one another for hours and I am happy in that space. I can express my sexual creativeness by sending a naughty text or a wild picture and I am happy in that space or I can send a text of sadness and a picture of vulnerability and be happy in this space.
Sex is an amazing expression of everything we are. There should be no limit to what you want to experience and how you want to experience it...as long as you and your husband agree then anything goes.
Stop putting so many damn labels on who you are and who you are not in the bedroom. Start taking steps to express your wants and desires. Start loving your hot and wild thoughts and share those with your husband. Just today I sent a wild message to my husband and I got hot and bothered writing it and he didn't want to delete it. It was super hot and I felt like a sexy, hot , wild bitch writing it.
You deserve to embrace your sexual self. Explore...Experiment...Enlighten your sexual self!