The divorce rate in America is more than 50%, which means one in two married couples will call it quits. Why it is so high? What is the real reason for divorce? As I read this question I started thinking about the powerful love we all feel when we first start dating our soon to be spouse. This love is more of an obsession. An altered state of reality that releases chemicals in our brain that gives us a feeling of security, love and happiness. In this state of the relationship we do not have to work at anything. We see only the good in one another and everything comes super easy. We are experiencing a state of bliss that triggers a euphoric feeling. We serve to make each other feel good and to show our love. We cuddle, we caress, we buy great gifts for one another. We give space for each person to have their own interests and hobbies with love and support. We do all these things in the lust, obsession stage. We do all these things to conquer or capture. Then we get married and it is usually great for a while but then we put all these amazing things that we use to do for one another aside and start looking at all the negative things that our spouse brings into the relationship. We shift our perception to what he or she is not doing. We start looking for all the annoying habits, all the reasons why I am not happy, all the reasons it is our spouses fault. In a marriage we are committing to serve, love and share ourselves. We are committing to create value in the home and create value in the marriage. We are committing to put our spouse first. We are committing that we will honor one another. We are committing that we will be a witness for our spouse. We are committing that we will find a way in the hard times to show one another we still love and care for them. The woman does not give herself enough credit for the love and gentleness she can bring into a marriage. You can be a superstar out in the work force but remember to return to your loving, soft and gentle nature in your home. I know we live in a have it all society and when things get tough most people check out. The man and woman relationship is complex and it is not going to be smooth sailing with no waves or even hurricanes but if you can find greatness in your spouse even in the times of turmoil then marriage will be just what it is meant to be.....passionate, loving, caring and forever! This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar.
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This morning I awoke to my husband kissing me and telling me that he is leaving for work and to be careful out on the roads today if I venture out due to the snow. As I am getting ready to take my daughter to school I know that I better go out and get all the snow off the car and let it warm up. So I get my boots on and grab my heavy coat and head out the door. When I open the door and look at my car it has already been all cleaned off for me. My husband showed me an act of love this morning with a very small gesture. He took a few extra minutes to do something that will serve me. Today I feel a little happier knowing that I have this wonderful man that loves me so much. He has many things on his mind in the morning( working a 10 hr day) and to know that he was thinking "how can I serve my wife" is truly an amazing gift to me. All the flowers in the world, an expensive trip or a day at the spa could never create the feeling that these little things create. I love knowing that my husband checks all my fluids in my car to ensure my safety and our childrens safety. I love that my husband takes the garbage out when he gets home just to show me that he is willing to serve. I love that my husband cleans my car inside and out to show me that he cares. I love that my husband calls me on his lunch break everyday to see how my day is going and to tell me how much he loves me. I love that my husband goes out everyday and fights a battle to bring home a paycheck and support me and the children. I love that my husband always tells me how good dinner was even if it wasnt that great. I love how my husband looks at me with peace and happiness in his heart. I love that my husband still grabs my butt when he walks by me in the kitchen. I love that my husband still desires to be intimate with me after being together 12 years. I love the long talks we have. I love the short talks we have. I love that my husband smells so yummy. I love how my husbands brain works so differently then my brain works. I love that my husband loves football. I love that my husband loves his children. I love my husband for hanging the pictures ,centered perfectly, in our house as I would have them just thrown up there crooked and displaced. I love my husband for his problem solving skills and how he loves to share those with me. I love my husband for going to the circus last night even thou he wasnt feeling that great. I love my husband for all the little things. These little things is what makes a marriage strong and stable. When we look at these little things and remember how big they really are then our hearts grow fonder and our love for our husband gets stronger and stronger. Remember the little things. I would love for you to share below a little thing your husband does that creates a feeling of love and you know he is serving you. |
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